Thursday, August 15, 2019

I can talk, when I know the person is listening.



I don’t like to talk to any angry person. I better stay silent and let them think that they win. Sometimes I just say OK/Yes to make them calm down.

In a conversation, if the other person gets angry, I can feel that the person is not able to think properly or give me a logical answer. They will just argue to win to feel better. I don’t want to argue a person like that.

I can only talk, when I know the person is listening. They might agree with me or not. They will have a good logic behind that, and they will express that nicely.

Tuesday, August 6, 2019

Haters shouldn’t be responsible for health care.



I think, there is a major problem in Saskatoon hospitals. I went to the hospital about 3 times in 4 years. And I have seen it every time. There must be something that needs to improve.
I had unbearable pain in stomach, I went to the ER in the hospital. There I had to wait for 4 hours with this pain before doctor can see me. While I saw a man vomiting continuously with headache and other people was suffering from other problems. I have also seen nurses and doctors were making jokes and having fun together right beside these patients. They were laughing loudly. I never felt such helpless like that. You are lucky that you don’t have any problem, but you should respect other’s situation. At least in front of them.

You know what, this is not even the main problem that I am going to mention.

I saw, police bring a lady. Probably she had been raped. Police put their own jacket on her to cover her body. On the way to the operation theater one doctor was laughing and saying to the police, “Why didn’t you put her bigger jacket? It’s their right!” Then again, he laughed out loud. Police didn’t say anything, just smiled. The lady was an aboriginal.

My son was coughing with blood. We took him to the hospital. The doctor came, he was behaving very rude with my 9-year-old son, the way he was asking questions, like he was scolding him. Right beside my son’s bed, there was a same age white boy. The doctor was very nice and polite with him. We are the immigrant from Bangladesh.

I was lying in a bed at the emergency room’s corridor. I was in pain and feeling cold, but no body gave me any cushion or blanket on me. After hours one nurse noticed my condition and gave me pillow and blanket.

After 2.5 years, I was having breathing problem. I was lying at emergency room, attaching with heart and pressure monitor. Because of my problem monitor was beeping. An old lady was there beside my bed. She felt disturbed for that beeping. So, she called a nurse and asked, “Is it my monitor that is beeping”. The white male nurse said, “No, it hers”. Then he came to my area and turned off the beeping. Like if anything goes wrong with me, it won’t beep, and I may die. That’s OK, but no white people should get disturb. Later when things go worse, I had to call a passer by and ask my nurse to come and check me. She came and give me medicine with doctor’s concern and turned all machine on again.

Later when I get release, I wanted to talk with my doctor about medicine. That white nurse said, “You can take Advil Strength, if you have problem again”. I went to Walmart next day and found that Advil Strength has Gelatin, which is not Halal and we Muslims avoid it. He knew it, because I was wearing Hijab/covering my head with head scarf.

I think this mentality won’t change in a day. We need to do some workshop with health region employees including doctor’s and nurses to minimize this problem. Haters shouldn’t be responsible for health care.