Too much love isn’t good

If you love anybody too much, you don’t need to show them. Because it might make them tired (if they don’t love you that much), and they will try to run away from you.

When I was a kid, I loved all of my relatives and wanted love from them, too. If I got on anyone's lap, I wouldn’t get down soon (I can’t remember, but I have heard this story many times). If any child came to our house to play, I tried to keep them in our home in many ways. I talked to them nicely and gave them my toys, but nobody could stay. That’s the reality I learned after a long time. If I desperate to hear my boy friend‘s voice, and call them frequently, they will feel disturbed (before married, I had disturbed my husband a lot). If I call my husband too much, he won’t need to call me back. But I like to have his calls, too.

They won't like it if you want to say too many things to your boyfriend. So, no matter how much you love (may be like ocean) don’t need to express too much. Trust me, it’s good for you.

My son is doing the same as me. He loves children and plays with them. He loves those who show love to him too much. If they come or he goes to their house, he doesn't want to let them go back or doesn’t want to come back home. Even from the market, if I start for home, he asked me to go to another market. This way, actually, he is scaring others to come to him. If anybody came into our house, they knew my son would fall into tears if they said anything about going back.

 I am trying hard to teach my son to let them go, who wants to go.  I told him that if he let them go, they would return if they liked him. Trust me, my son. He is starting to realize the matter. Today, when his uncle wanted to go, he started crying but controlled himself and said “Allah hafiz, aabar aashben” (May Allah protect you, and come back soon), as I told him to say.

Then we had some mother son talk, I told him, see it worked, your uncle again came back and play with you. He said, yes, Mom, you were right.