Biography 320: Invitations

 From my childhood, I have always seen my parents invite a group of people to celebrate Eid, birthdays, and other occasions. But I didn't visit that much. I mean, we didn't get invited that much. Sometimes my parents would only go to visit some people's homes because the invitation was only for them. I am trying to remember what I was first invited to go to somebody's home.

Probably to my oldest aunt's house. My uncle was famous for his invitations to home-cooked meals. I heard people used to suggest he not do this too much. But I guess he didn't listen to anyone. He liked food and liked to enjoy it with people.

I have started inviting people on my son's birthday and Eid. It was limited to my family. Sometimes I used to invite my friends or colleagues for my engagement, birthdays, and other occasions. Then I realized I wasn't getting invited by them as much. So I made it more limited. I found people aren't interested in joining me anywhere. Some people told me that I don't realize they don't want to spend time with me, but with themselves. So I had to learn to travel, enjoy food, and be with my family only. I shouldn't bother people if they don't like me.

Invitation for Iftar should come one after another.

Today I felt that iftar invitations should come one after another, so that you can take rest all those days and when your day comes, you cook food for iftar. Otherwise you don’t have any day for rest, every day you have to prepare iftar and again one day you have to make iftar for your guests. A woman who has a small kid knows very well how difficult it is.

Social invitation

People give invitation for several reasons. People expect invitation also. Like if any known person get married or arrange any birthday party, in you mind you will expect to have invitation. But the person, who arranges this, is difficult to manage. He/she had to think many things. Budget, place, relation with the gust and relation between guest to guest etc. Some times they can’t invite all known people. And some times they had to ask formally to join, but in their mind they don’t expect those guest.

Now my problem is I can’t understand when any person really want me to go or not. Generally who ever invite me I join them. May be they didn’t like that but I couldn’t know. And if any one don’t invite me, I take it easy. Its not possible that every person expect me in their occasion every time.