Information about future bride or groom

 

In Bangladesh, there is some common activity, before getting married. One of them is to get information about the future bride or groom. Generally, people go to that girl’s/boy’s area and ask neighbours about them. Or to those people who may know about the future bride or groom. Whatever those neighbour or people said, people believe it. Sometimes they break the relation on basis of this information. There are no further queries or validation checks about that info.

 

The reality is, you don’t know these informers. Are they reliable? Are they telling you the truth? Whatever proof they are showing, are those good enough to decide? NO. But who cares? You will find another girl or boy for your family.

 

What happens, many times you get the wrong information. People basically don’t want any good for others. They feel jealous of every single good step in another's life. So, whenever they get a chance, they spread false information.

 

Some are different. They don’t want to make any harm to others. So, even if they knew something, they just hide it and say something good so that the new relation doesn’t get hampered.

 

So, either way, you will get the wrong information.

 

Some people want to make themselves important. So, they create some new information and present it as a very important truth.

 

How can you rely on these people’s information? You can ask. But try to verify that information. Before making a final decision ask the girl/boy directly. Let them have a chance to clear themselves out.

 

I can give you an example. Someone asked our neighbour about our older sister. That neighbour also has a daughter who was studying with my sister. So, the person thought, the neighbour might give her good information about my sister. The neighbour said, my sister, got second division in SSC. Then the person said, but I heard she has got star marks! The neighbour became angry and replied, “What happens if she has stars, she had passed in second division!” We would never know about our neighbour’s mentality if that person didn’t ask us about it.

 

The reality is my sister has got star marks in SSC. And got placed 13^th in HSC. None of our family ever got Second Class in SSC.

Kitchen smoke from other’s flat

Living problem in Dhaka city is very common scenario. To solve this problem (and for business too) many housing companies are buying lands and old houses and they are making high rise flats. Dhaka city is now becoming the slams of too many flats. Here slams means flats are built (earlier) too congested. Generally kitchen of all flats kept in same place. So that kitchen smoke won’t disturb others rooms. It’s good.

Here new situation arises. In Bangladesh there are some different food habits in different area. Some people like more spice, some like to burn vegetables, chilies, dried fish etc to cook. Can you imagine what kind of smoke those create?  Where they go? They may go out through window then goes inside other window of other flat. Those people may not habitat with this kind of food. What is the situation then? Many times I had to face trouble in kitchen while I didn’t make these smoke.

Kitchen chimney isn't in cheap price in Bangladesh. It’s really difficult and costly to maintain. So, how can we get rid of this situation? No idea…

Shafeen and computer

 

Shafeen and computer

Wherever we go, the first thing we get noticed, where we have the most interest. People who like to stay in super clean house, they looks the cleanness of that place, who like photography, and they look at the camera. My son no matter wherever he goes, first he tries to catch and work (in his language) with the computer.