In our country it’s a common question to any bride, why don’t you like to live with your in law family (where you have to obey you’re in laws, complete all job given by them, have to live like them, have to take permission for everything, dress up according to their choice etc)? What will be the answer, if I ask the same question to the groom? Why you boys don’t like to live with your in laws, where you should work for them, take responsibility of all work, listen to them, obey them, never raise your voice only listen even they says bad words about your parents etc?
If you can’t do it then don’t ask to your wife to do this. Both of you are human.