My maid is much tensed. She recently gave her elder daughter
marry. First she was in economic problem, because, she had to give money, to
her son-in-law, for business. Then in Eid she had to give dresses and shoe to
the new son in law including her daughters.
Now she is in other problem. She has to give full furniture to her
daughter as she is going to start her new life. And she can't buy old furniture
to save money... all has to be new. She is saying she doesn't know what to
do...
Here I must say... this became very common scenario in Bangladesh
(may be in some other country too). People who has money gives all possible
things to their daughters after marry. This makes greedy to the groom family
more and makes jealous of other people in neighbor. All likes to bring bride
from these kind of (money making) family, don't care who is going to be their
bride (in some cases they look for beautiful and educated girls too including
wealthy family).
Because of this situation middle class family faces problems. No
matter what they give, grooms family never satisfied. Always expected more
(some says directly, some indirectly).
For this tradition poor family suffers more. Their family can
never fulfill grooms family demand and the daughters had to pay for it by all
kind of (physical, mental, social etc) torture. Many families killed their
bride to get more money.
My suggestions to the wealthy family... please drop this
tradition. Let the groom hold your daughter by his own responsibility. The universal
truth is "MONEY CAN'T BRING HAPPINESS FOR YOUR DAUGHTER". No matter
how much you give... if the groom family has mental problem (mostly has) they
will give pain to your daughter. Some might directly say, "We didn't bring
you to see your face, you have to work for this family", some may use
different indirect word.
If a good family want a bride and ready to keep her happy, they
won't demand or expect anything but your daughter. If your daughters go there
in one set of cloth they will be happy to have her....
Please stop this bad habit (giving furniture) for your daughter.
Unless we can stop this tradition, we can’t expect people
will like to have girl child and raise them… obviously they will to kill them
in mother’s womb.
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