Woman, you are the culprit

 Woman, you are the culprit.

I have seen this always, everywhere. When any negative incident happens, no matter what, if that is linked or just slightly linked to any woman. Then everyone will think, including all women, that the negative incident happened because of that woman.

For example, car accidents, airplane crashes, broken relationships, husband-wife trouble, rape, shoplifting, out of control kids. Anything, you name it, all because of women.

Just check, when you or anyone give any information about an incident, how the people around you or your friends or relatives react. You will see, whenever they get to know, a woman was there when that incident happened, they will think, because of her all of this happened. Directly or indirectly.

When men talk like this, I can understand. They are not ready to accept any faults. But I am really surprised when women think like that. They love and respect men so much, that even they are ready to take all the blame. Sometimes parents do this when their girl and boy fight or do any mistake. "Boys will be boys", this term has been created to ignore all wrong things that boys do. It's like, Girls, it's your mistake that boys did such a thing. Or from childhood, their mind has been created in this way that in Bangla they say, "Purush manush, or ki dosh? Oto emon ektu korbei. Shob dosh to oi meyer".

As long as we never get the real person, who is the real culprit, you can't think that crime will stop. Every time when anyone can get away, especially men. They will keep doing and thinking like that.

Decisions

 I like to listen to everyone before I take any decision. Then I will make my own. I got influenced several times by others. Whether it is right or wrong, I own my decision. I never blame anyone. Maybe I said in a joke, that "you said that..." but I really don't accuse anyone.

In most cases, I found that the decision I took longer to think to pick the correct one, was wrong. But I tried my best. 

When I make decisions in anger or without thinking just in a second, I found them right actually.

This proves, how stupid I am. Only destiny is helping me to survive. I actually don't have any quality.

We don’t need to blame others, we need the solution

We always have some people among us who only know how to find who did this and how to blame them. They don’t think, what is the situation now or what we should do now first.

Once I locked my door by keeping the key inside my room. I really didn't know what to do next. I told this to some. Asked them to find and bring a key maker for me and open the door. But no, their interest is to know, how this happen? How could I do this? How I should be blamed. On that moment the only thing I said, we have to open the door first and bring back the keys. Then will discuss what and how things happened. Then somehow I opened the door.

Key of the garden door lost. Thanks Allah I don’t touch it. But people started saying the maid must have taken, who else can do such things blah blah. I tried to make them understand, we didn't see who take it or not, first we should search every where the key can be or can’t be, because people by mistake can keep the key in other place. Anyway the lock had been changed. And the key is still lost.