খুব বেশি চিন্তা করছি (Thinking too much)

খুব বেশি চিন্তা করছি আমি,

আমি খুব বেশি চিন্তা করছি.

 হয়তো বেশি চিন্তার কারনেই

সব চিন্তায় গোলমাল হয়ে যাচ্ছে 

সমাধানে আবার জোর করে সব চিন্তা 

মাথা থেকে বের করে দিচ্ছি

শুন্য  মাথা নিয়ে আবার চিন্তা করছি

এর আর কোন সমাধান নেই যেন

তবু আশা

একদিন সব ঠিক মত গুছিয়ে ফেলব

 

জীবনটাকে ঠিক মত গুছিয়ে নেব

হয়তো

সবাই আছে শুধু ভাবনায়

Thinking too much,
I am thinking too much.

 May be because of too much thinking
  everything becoming blur

 to solve this problem
by force myself to stop thinking about everything
 
then again with empty head

every thoughts are coming

May be there is no solution

 but I hope
everything will be OK
 I will summarize everything
  
 I will arrange everything well
 may be
 All are in my mind now...

Magic mosquito net

My previous ordinary mosquito net, photo credit: Shafeen

Mosquito and mosquito net are two very familiar words in Bangladesh. Especially in Dhaka city, inhabitants are use to deal with mosquito. At night very few people can think to sleep without mosquito net. Previously we uses normal mosquito net. If you ever use it, you may know inside this net ceiling fan’s air doesn’t go much, even not AC air. So, in this hot temperature we had to sleep inside it. Then I heard about the magic mosquito net. When my previous one tore I brought the magic mosquito net. Wow, I like it. Now ceiling fan’s or AC air gets entered well, I am very happy. It’s also been made in better qualities that not easily tear.

Our cricket team

When Bangladesh Cricket team gets test status, I stopped supporting other countries team. Even now a day I don’t like to see any cricket if Bangladeshi team isn't playing. First, we only hope and pray that our team should be able to make some score. Then this team gives us faith that they can win too with big teams. Obviously we start hopping that there is no looking back. But situation changed or never built. Now we only hope that our team shouldn't get lost badly… what situation they build for us!

The only thing we want from them is to try hard and never give up. Its cricket, game can be changed any minutes, just keep trying. Are we (Bangladeshi) asking too much?

দরকার ঝটপট রান্না (When you need quick cooking)

৪ পদ না হলে বাঙালির খাওয়া হয় না (ভাত, ডাল, শাক/সবজি, মাছ/গোশত). রান্নাতেও যথেস্ট সময় লাগে. তাই যখন কাজের চাপে রান্নায় সময় দেয়া যায়না, তখন দরকার ঝটপট রান্না. যেমনটা আমি গতকাল করলাম.

প্রথমে খাসির গোশতের চর্বি কেটে (২ কেজি) আলাদা করে ধুয়ে প্রেসার কুকারে দিলাম. এরপর একে একে ঢেরস (২৫০ গ্রাম) আর এককাপ ডাল ধুয়ে দিলাম. এবার দিয়ে দিলাম দরকারী সব মশলা (যা না হলে বাঙালির খাওয়া হয়না), পিয়াজ কুচি, রসুন কুচি, আদা মিহি কুচি, হলুদ গুড়া ৩ চা চামচ, জিরা গুড়া ৩ চা চামচ, ধনে গুড়া ৩ চা চামচ, লাল মরিচ গুড়া দেড় চা চামচ, গরম মশলা গুড়া ৩ চা চামচ আর লবন. তারপর পানি দিয়ে চুলায় বসিয়ে দিলাম. একবার সিটি বাজার পর আচ কমিয়ে ৫০ মিনিট রেখেছিলাম. এর মাঝে চলেছে ছেলেকে পাঠদান. নামানোর পর চেখে দেখলাম, খেতে বেশ হয়েছে :) 

Bangladeshi people can't eat food without four items (rice, lentils, vegetables, fish/meat). And traditional cooking is also very time consuming. So, when your work pressure is too high and you can't give time in cooking you need quick cooking. Like I did yesterday.

First I separated all fats from the mutton (2kg) then wash it and put it in a pressure cooker. Then I put into the pot ladies finger (250 gm) and lentils (1 cup). After that I had given all the common masala (without these Bangladeshi food can't be cooked). Like finely cut onion, garlic, zinger, turmaric powder 3 tea spoon, cumin powder 3 tea spoon, coriander powder 3 tea spoon, red chili 1.5 tea spoon, Garam masala powder 3 tea spoon and salt. Then given enough water and put it on the gas burner. After getting full pressure I turned the heat low and keep it like that for 50 minutes. While I was busy with my son's study. Finally I found it taste really good. Thanks to me :)

Problem with air suffocation

Photo credit: Shafeen

After buying AC, I had to cover all possible space from which AC air may lick (as much as possible). I have covered the ventilator and extra spaces of doors with board. It seems working fine. Now another problem arises. I can’t keep running my AC all day and night. It is only for bed time. Rest I had to live with ceiling fan. I can’t keep open my doors and windows for dust (can ignore for fresh air) and mosquito (it bites my son terribly). I have turned on liquate mosquito coil in room, but again can’t keep the door open. But for air suffocation I had to. And mosquitoes take this advantage.

How and with whom you should celebrate?

Shafeen enjoying himself

There are many big and small celebrations in our life. We want to enjoy it as much as possible. These are the colors of our life. Let me give you some tips about with whom and how you can celebrate these days.

In marriage anniversary, your all plan has to be with your spouse. It will be good if you could keep busy your kids with other thing and have some quality time with your spouse. You can take them out and give some gift. You can go to any memorable place related with your marriage. You can also make some food by your own hand. Give him/her a surprise… give only joy them (most of the Bangladeshi don’t care about it)

For father’s day and mother’s day, you should plan to enjoy with your father or mother. If possible try to bring all of your siblings and parents in one place to enjoy. It could be at your home or outside where you all have some memory. Give some gift to your father or mother (according to the day). If all can’t come together then you can give time alone with your parent. Taken them out and have some quality time, where you will talk only about their life.

Birthday celebration is world know event to enjoy. If a group of people are known to the birthday person, you can arrange a simple get together with all of you. If you want to celebrate it alone with the birthday person, then make some time when there won’t be any birthday program (may be afternoon) and take them out with you, alone you two can have some good time to enjoy the day. And a gift and cake is a must…

If you ask me did you enjoy this way. My answer is I want to and expect to… J

ব্যঙ্গ বিদ্রুপ না শোনাই ভাল (We better not listen jeered about ourselves)

কেও যখন আপনাকে নিয়ে ব্যঙ্গ বিদ্রুপ করে, আর আপনি যদি সেটা না বুঝেন, তাহলে খুবই ভাল. যে বলছে সে বলে মজা পাবে. যারা শুনছে তারা শুনে মজা পাবে. আর আপনি যেহেতু বুঝতে পারেননি আপনার মন খারাপও হচ্ছে না.

তবে আপনি যদি বুঝতে পারেন, তাহলেই সমস্যা. খুব খারাপ লাগবে আপনার. রাগে কিছু বলেও বসতে পারেন আপনি.

যদিও আমি সত্য পছন্দ করি. যত কঠিনই হোক না কেন আমি সত্য শুনতে পছন্দ করি. ভুল নিয়ে আমি বাস করতে চাইনা . তারপরও কারো ব্যঙ্গ বিদ্রুপ নিয়ে মন খারাপ করার চাইতে আমি না শুনে খাকতেই বেশি পছন্দ করব.

When people jeered on you, it will be great if you don't hear about it. Then they who jeered will be happy that they jeered with you. Other people will be happy that they are having please by listening and it won't hurt you, because you didn't understand it.

But the problem is when you understood it. It will break your hurt. Even you may say same about others in angry mood.

Though, I like to live with the truth. No matter how hard it is, I will like to know it. I don't want to stay will lie. But when people jeered, it breaks my hurt. I better not listen any of these. Let me live happy.

Shafeen took this picture to see his sleeping face

Photo credit: Shafeen

When I was a kid, I was also very curious to know, how I am look like while sleeping. I remember, I close my eyes then wanted to see me (by keeping little open) in front of mirror. Now a day, digital time is going on. My son was also very curious to know how he looks while sleeping. So, he closes his eyes and took picture with my cell phone to see exactly how he looks. He was just 3 years and 1 month old on those days.

I have increased my tolerance level

I and my son

Everyone has some patience level. Most of the people think, including me, we have enough patience. And day by day it’s growing. I can measure that…

Previously when I sit with my son to help (or make him study) in study, I use to shout; sometimes I couldn't stop myself to hit him. But now, I have increased my patience level. Now a day I keep saying gently to write to my son…

I usually don’t allow bad comments in my blog or FB status. Previously I use to block those persons that they won’t be able to disturb anymore. But now a day I tolerate them as much as possible… unless they attack me badly that I can’t hold myself to delete their comment… Then I stop answering them… finally if they continue hurting me (with their words) I delete them. Then no matter what they say or do, I don’t have to see that.

ভুল করে সুন্দর কল্পনা নিয়ে মেতে উঠি (mistakenly I became happy with nice dream)

মনটা সব সময়ই চায় আমি খুব সুখে, আনন্দে থাকি। তাই তো যখনই ফুরসত পায়, তখনই একটা সুন্দর সময় কল্পনা করে। যা হয়তো কখনই হবে না, হওয়া সম্ভবও না। তারপরও মন আমাকে খুশি করার চেষ্টা করে। আমিও খেয়াল না করেই সেই কল্পনা নিয়ে আনন্দে মেতে উঠি। যখনই বুঝতে পারি, আমি বাস্তবে নেই, সাথে সাথেই জোর করে মনটা বোঝাই, এসব ভেবে লাভ নেই। বরং বাস্তবে থাক, সত্য যা হচ্ছে-হবে তার সাথে থাক। এতেই বরং কষ্ট কম হবে। এতেই বরং আর মন ভাংবে না। (যদিও মন বলতে থাকে, কল্পনাটাও তো খুব সুন্দর ছিল)

My mind always wants to make me happy. So, whenever it gets chance, makes sweet, nice, romantic dreams, which will never come true, or can’t be true. But to make me happy, my mind creates it. First I don’t realize it and start enjoying it. Whenever I understood I am in dream, I try to make my mind realize that it doesn’t worth at all. It’s better to live in the real world, with real truth. So, reality will never break my heart. (Though my mind keep saying, the dream was also very enjoyable).