Why Headache?

From very childhood I am facing problem for headache. My mom said, I have sinus problem that’s why facing problem like this. Then she suspect I have problem with my eyes, so have problem of headache. Finally get to know I have migraine. I guess I have problem in my eyes too… have to go to a eye specialist. Do you know anyone?

Now at night I had to cover my head with warm cloth then had to go for sleep. And regularly I am taking lemon juice to have vitamin C to prevent cold. Lemon juice is working fine. Staying better in cold weather. But still if I get angry or sad again headache comes…..

Using cosmetics

In my childhood I was fond of cosmetics. My mom gave her old makeup box and lipstick to me to play. I kept those with my toys. And in every occasion take some make up. I looked horrible. But I didn’t care.

After grew up, I made up my mind I won’t get marry. So stop doing the things which may attract boys. I leave cosmetics. I became very simple women, with no makeup and ornaments.

But time changes. Now my husband wants me to take care of my skin and others. Hmm, a bit difficult for me. I have some new cosmetics which I get in my marriage. But don’t get time to practice on it. So, whenever any occasion or function comes I get chance to do some practice on makeup. And I do sometimes looks ok, sometimes not. I hope I am not giving pain to the persons who are looking at me.

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When you see the storm

In boat or Ferry if storm comes, People start panic and that coz more trouble. If all stay calm then that increase 50% chance to survive.

In real life this is also there. In any storm in your life, if you can stay calm with patient that will be helpful for you mind to find better solution and act. May be its not true all times. But in a hurry or in panic, you may make more trouble with bad decisions and wrong steps.

Some place to visit

I think every country has some beautiful or interesting place for vacation. Generally when we plan to visit a new place, we always think what tourist places are available there. Or first think about the place, then country. But there are some other things too. Like climate, culture, people. Like if you are an Asian and go to an African country, then will see different race of people, culture, language. Then the whole country is new for you to see. Or if you go to Middle East then climate will be change also. Sometimes visiting new places seems visiting new worlds. We should see it.

Way to stay tension free

Staying in tension is very painful. I have heard this is one of the major reasons to have Diabetes. To stay tension free or less I always give myself time to think, what could be the solution. And when I thought anything as a solution I stop thinking about the problem (at least try to stop thinking) and try to stay steady. It works. But maybe not all times. When I expect some major problem, no matter whatever solution I think (sometimes I think to accept all) in my absent mind I may not stay that much free from tension. I feel week, brain not working properly, start doing silly mistakes everywhere. And finally fall in sick… Trying to solve this problem also… trying to make my mind stay cool in any situation.

Mentally prepared

How much can a person be mentally prepared? Don’t know. If I only think about me then will say I always try to be as much prepared as possible. Then don’t know how new strange situations come.

Once in a cartoon I have heard, the real world is much more exciting than your own imagination. It’s true; I have seen it several times. So no matter how much I stay prepared for good and worst. Life is totally different thing; it comes to in a new way always. I am not telling that my assumption is always wrong. But when I expect something bad but then I see reality wasn’t so bad. That makes me happy, and in a reverse way when good things don’t come the way I expect… feels a little bad. But I always accept the real world. No matter what I expected in my mind… keep it in there.

Is love important?

Do you think love is important in your life? I know many debates has perform in this issue and many going on. But what you believe? Or learn from your love?

I feel, without love a man live, no problem, can live with happy. But he will miss a beautiful feeling. Now you go for the beautiful feelings, it will fly you a different world. But again… there are some dishearten situation. Which you feel very terribly, but the person who didn’t love once, will never face it. And this is something you can never share with others. Only you will feel and destroy yourself.

We can compare with a bit with hope. In you’re mind you May thing you won’t hope for anything, so there will be no hope breaking pain. But you know, no matter what you decide, in your mind there are some hope always. This hope generates time to time and if break then only you understand that you have hoped for something, and feeling pain now because it’s broken.

Which ones priority comes first?

If you think about your career, 2 major things will come in front of you. If you are honest enough to count like that. Company and Your own position. Relation is, if you upgrade your self, your company will get upgraded resource, in other sense you can say, your company will be upgraded. If your company upgrade that can affect you too. You will be in a good company.

Now which has more priority to take care of? If you always think about your company and always try to share your knowledge to your team so that everyone gets upgraded and total value will increase. What will be your benefit. Your company will get better position. But we can’t assure you that you will be rewarded.

But if you think about yourself and upgrade, then your value will be increase, company will get better person, will respect you and will give benefit. Your team may not increase their value like you but that is good then they won’t come on your way, secure job. Recently while debating with one of my colleague I realize it.

Now you have to decide, what will you do? Which is more important for you?

Disagree with colleagues

My astrology said not to go with disagreement with anybody… Fine, trying to say yes to everyone. But in a decision making meeting me guess situation wasn’t like that. Somehow I have shown some points which a bit against to some colleague. Obviously that created some disagreement. I don’t know maybe I should keep quiet and or maybe I was right. I wish everyone should understand why I had pointed out and have little negative conversation with the colleagues

Service and business in Bangladesh

I have seen in most cases payment collection in Bangladesh is really a big trouble. No matter what service or product you give companies are always make you trouble to pay your bill. I have seen in some companies, there are always some bills pending… I wonder how people do business over here.

In giving service, same condition going on. You won’t get 100% service. You have to call and ask them again and again. Some says, if I pay full payment, they won’t come back and give me service… Some says, if I give full service, that company will never call me and give me my full payment. This shouldn’t be the way of business…

Miss place Miss Job

I like some advertise in TV for job sites.

Like in one AD, I have seen, a person with cricketer dress and bat washing clothes, One with dancing dress managing plain, one with chopper saving in saloon… hmm can understand what they really want to do.

Another is one is feeling very proud after every success, like when girls look at him, his boss is happy with his work, clients are happy with his plan. These make his chest big.. but he became small when he look at his payment….

May be these are looking very interesting because I am also doing job ….

Hiding others faults

Not focusing others fault is my general nature, I always try to tell good of anyone. I believe every person has a good side. So try to find that and focus on that. Even when someone accuse me I always try to explain what happen without accusing another person…

Now what’s the result? People listen bad about me (from other), but don’t listen bad about others from me. So I can see people are getting bad impression on me. I should learn to point on person when I found they are responsible too for any problem.

Being beautiful

I am not talking about a beautiful mind. Today, my focus will be on beauty. Why do people want to be beautiful? So that other people can look at him and make good comments? Coz they can’t see themselves (except mirror). It’s a good reason. But I think when you feel you are looking beautiful, you will feel good, which will make a direct impact on your mind, body, and work everywhere. It is also good that others will feel good when they see me ;) dying for beauty? Well, that’s a different case…

Work with sickness

In my childhood whenever I feel sick for headache or fever, I go for sleep and feel good. Then in student life take rest at home. Now work life going on, no time for sleep or taking rest in sick, just adjust with sickness work continue work, until fall in bed that I can’t sit anymore.

Marathon complains….

When you found any point of disagreement or problem or missing anything what do you do? Directly contact with the right person. Then? Discuss and come to a point where both can agree. Then? Live happy.

No, some people are not like that. If they found problem, they will start screaming with nearby person, then will go to the right person, discuss, come to a point. Then again contact with next boss, complain. Did that person stop?

No. Then go the MD, again complain, scream, may be with tears. Is it finished now? Who knows….

Saving money

That I really need to do… And people around me can also see that, how much I am trying. So, situation going like for few months I am trying to save as much as possible then in one occasion I had to expend all. Then again start saving money… I wish I could find a better solution…

Weight loss, after marriage?

In our country (Bangladesh), if any girl losses her weight after marriage then people will think her in-law family isn’t good. They are creating problem for the girl, that’s why she is losing her weight. Truth is this is right in many cases.

Even people don’t expect to see that girl same as before. All expect to see her gaining weight a bit…

Some other country can have seen nature.

Generally in our country, women get more weight after marriage. So, before marriage if any girl is over weighted then people will think, what will happen to her after marriage?

Case is different with those women, who are very conscious about fashions. They like to lose weight no matter they are married or not.

Criticism, is it worth?

Sometimes yes. And most of the times “NO”.

What I do, generally avoid it. When in any comment I have to criticism someone. I stopped giving any comment. I think, it’s better not to say anything instead of criticism.

My country is better place to live

Everybody loves their country. But unless you see any other country how can you compare? With only details in book or newspaper you can’t see it. You have to there and live there for a while. When you visit any develop country rather than your country you can find it out why they are developed and what the demerits are there in your country. You can also see, in some cases your country is in better situation.

When you visit any under develop country than your country, you can easily see, how good are you living in your country, though you might have a lots of complain on your own country.

After traveling very little country for short time, now I feel our country is much better place than much other country (who claims they are better). Here things are much cheap to expend. Live more stable. Many good things are available here. Yes, I am talking about Bangladesh. Why don’t you come and stay here, you will also feel that.

My opinion

It’s actually person’s own power to convince other people. A big example is political leader. They can convince many people.

I am not thinking in that broad area. I have heard in my child hood if anybody denied my opinion I started crying which was very difficult to stop. Like many other child.
Then after growing up, I express my opinion to only those persons who listen to me. If I anyhow I found this person is not going to listen my concept or won’t follow it, I didn’t tell anything to them. Why should I?

Now what I am started to do is always expressing my thoughts, opinion, suggestions…. Now, it’s up to the listeners, whether they will listen to me or not. If they don’t then fine, and later when they really face the problem as I warned, I don’t go to them to memorize that you didn’t listen to me when I gave you alert. I know they already can understand that. So, why should I show them down?

Your surroundings…..

What you feel about your surroundings. It’s really a good feeling to have surroundings who likes you. Then you must be lucky. What will happen if you found, your all time surrounding don’t like you? It’s terrible. Generally I don’t like to disturb other people. If I found any person who doesn’t like me, I don’t go there to disturb them. I don’t make any contact unless it’s very urgent. But may be reality don’t want that. I had to spend time with those guys’ who might not want to see my face ;) But I can’t help it. I wish things will get changed. I always try to spend my time with them who likes me. May be I have to go to them, until I found they are feeling bored with me 

Accuse….

When anyone accuses you, that person will never though what they did with you. They will only consider what they felt about you. Though they will ask you, but actually they don’t want to listen anything from you, except accepting the accusation. What should you do in this situation? Let’s keep quiet and see how far they go….

You want feedback, but can’t accept it….

This is a very common attitude I found in my life. Many times people wants feedback, but actually they want only good feedback. If you be honest with your feedback, you are in trouble. Sometimes your relation may put in danger. So, what you like to do? Will you be honest….? May be it’s not the correct way. But I always try to be honest on my comments. If I found I have to negative then I don’t make any comment. But problem is people don’t like this quietness, they ask until they listen something from me. Now what can I do…. Let’s face it.

Following the middle way

I believe the better way is to go with the middle way. Of course not in the road. You know, extreme behavior isn’t good for anyone. If you always stay quiet, never disagree or show your opinion, others will never care about you by themselves.
And If you are always get angry show your disappointment, that is also not good to digest for others.
So, w1hat left? You have to understand what behavior will effect others and good enough to motivate them. Some times its good if you keep quiet, coz some people has habit never to listen others, unless they fall in problem. Sometimes you have to raise your voice on your opinion. So, others can listen and understand the value of your point.
Now it’s totally up to you, to understand when you have to follow which behavior.

Weight loss

I can’t remember when I was happy with my weight. First I thought my belly is out of shape. Then found I am becoming over weighted. And finally I got gastric ulcer. Now what? Every hour I had to eat something. But you know, if you eat all times, then you won’t feel hungry and finally you will found that you are losing weight!!

No extra work in a rainy day

Generally I stay office to do my personal work and study for long time. Sometimes do official work too. But, what about a rainy day? Nop, will take office car and go home. I love rain. But it doesn’t mean that I don’t like to work in a rainy day. But in rain, no vehicle is available to go to home, I had to walk in dirty road water for long time and request every cab and auto rickshaw to take to home. And finally if any of them say yes may be with double rent I had to go to home. So, I better go with my colleague in time in a rainy working day…..

Practice to upgrade your skill

Practice is very much important to upgrade and to keep your skill level, especially for the programmers. When I had spent time by coding java swing, programming seems very interesting. Now I have been busy for other task that for long time no relation with coding. Now a day a simple php code takes long time to solve. I lose practicing I lose my skill…..

Marathon Marriage Ceremony

A year back, I was thinking that it’s been a long time that I didn’t attend in any marriage ceremony. Same thinking goes for some times, after marriage also. Coz, I couldn’t eat good in my own marriage ceremony.

But things suddenly start going in reverse. Now I am getting tired to go and join every marriage ceremony. I like to join but feeling very tired to get ready, go, attend and eat for every occasion. But still I like to join whenever I get invitation. Because when I invite anyone and that person doesn’t come, that disheartens me. So in the same way I don’t want to dishearten anyone. I don’t know whether they really want me to see over there or not.

For last few months I am joining too many occasions, it’s a marathon ceremony, one after another. I guess I never join this much marriage ceremony in my life.

Travel with Travel agency package

This is the first time we travel with a package tour of a travel agency… And we had very bitter experience. So, from next I will always try to go to tour by myself. I can discuss with any agency but will never go with their package.

In the tour, they made us eat same for 10 days tour for twice a day (which was very terrible). They took us with local bus, could arrange better transport, which we have seen running on the same road. They keep us in bad hotel, with no sight view. Hence in the same hotel there were better quality room. They give us very few time for visiting any place and shopping. But expend long time by waiting in the bus every where without any reason. Their behave wasn’t good all time.

I really don’t know how could people recommend to go with them!!

Interrupted by some boysInterrupted by some boys

After crossing the border, our bus start moving to Shiliguri, but interrupted by some boys, who are looking for money for Puja. And we had to wait their for half an hour coz some discussion was going on about the money amount with bus drivers and those boys.
We found one bus was run so fast and didn’t give money to the boys. And the boys throw bricks to that bus!

this was my first experience after entering India.

Where all times gone

When I was child I had plenty of times to do things.. but after joining university I don’t know where all times gone. I could never do all things that I wanted to complete in a day…. Day by day, this situation becomes very strong. Now I had to cut my daily plan to adjust. Which I don’t want but I had to…..

Not to cross border by road.

This is first time i went out from the country by road…. I wish that i wont need to do that any more time.

First there is huge croud to cross the border. And the system is manual and with few man power. So oviously it will generat long que. People had to wait for hours under the sun. waiting room is too small for all and not good enough.

I think if by air waiting and transaction is too good they we keep our by road border in such way.

Then you have carry our ludget to cross no mans land…. If you have lots of ludge..

People spends hours to cross the border. Minimum 6 hours… its not good.

After traveling for 10 days

I have traveled 3 countries. India, Nepal and Vutan, Eaten both, good food and bad food. But our health was good.
After coming back to Bangladesh I started feeling sick. Don’t know what the problem is. is our country food quality isn’t good enough?

Someone making my surroundings against me

It’s her nature; she wants to take over my position. So, she is making my surroundings against me day by day. For my every step she is trying me make it matter of laugh to everyone. I wonder everyone becoming blind. They stop judging by themselves. They are also going where she is taking….. Why people became such backboneless?

Dealing with non cooperative and bad manners people

I am always a well-behaved person. Some people took it as my negative point or week point. So, they behave badly with me, when I didn't do anything. 

I am not showing any anger. It because I hate to show even anger to them. I don’t like bad manners. So, I will try not to follow their attitude. I am a nice, intelligent girl….. I think I am like that. My good personality won't make me take any revenge. It doesn’t mean that I can’t… I won’t. I believe in Allah. I believe, if I don’t like anything, I won't do that.

Drainage system in Dhaka/Bangladesh

We are living in a country where monsoon season has great impact. So, during rainy season we have lots of rain and some times in other season also. But our roads and foot path especially in Dhaka don’t have proper drainage system. It’s very difficult for any one to travel by any transport or by walking. People had to pass away with dirty water and wastages…. which is really too unhealthy. We should be more aware in this issue.

Complaining, good? Or bad?

I don’t have a habit to complain. Even when necessary I never make any complaint. Then? What happens? For whom I should make complain that person understands that I won’t harm them. So, they start trying to make me fall down at every single step. How cruel they are. They try to influence other people to make bad comments or complain about me. They hide the total truth but use some of my word against me. What a pity. If I am too good, it doesn’t mean that I can’t be bad. I don’t like to be strong to point out others' faults. I always try to bring out others' good things. But when I do good for a bad person they don’t understand or don’t want to count that. As their habit of always trying to do poorly for me… Don’t know how long this will continue. I wish to stop this soon.

old problem/enemy

I found that most of my friends dislike me. I guess my personality isn’t good enough to make people feel good. Now, an old problem/enemy has come my way… trying to disturb me. I don’t know how to deal with it; right now, I'm just ignoring…..

Convincing by logic.

Previously I thought I can convince people with my logic, coz in any issue if I say anything, I say it with logic.

But my professional life gives me another lesson. I can’t convince people by logic always. It differs person to person. I can only give logic who wants to listen to me and think about my logic. But most of the person doesn’t want to listen, other’s different logic. They only listen what they want to listen.

Astrology is saying it’s a happy time

Well, I don’t believe in astrology but i like to see it regularly. Coz, some times they are saying nice things which make me feel good. Just like a friend.

Now a day, it is saying I am in a very good position, happiness, romance, good career everything is going super!!

I wonder where it is, may be some where very close that even I can’t see clearly….

Avoiding quarrel

Most of the times I try to avoid any kind of quarrel. That’s why I never answer to my parents or in-law-parents when they are in angry mood. Some times I avoid my husband. Coz I don’t like angriness.

And for other people, when I know this could create any bad debate I tried to avoid that topic or that person.

But what’s the benefit? Let try to face everything. Not with parents or husband, but with other people. I have run away enough to save good relation. Now I should face any situation, whether it is good for me or not.

Fighting with Sleep

Doctors gave me some medicine to take regularly. And like a very good girl I am taking regularly and now it’s became very difficult to keep concentrate on my work, just thinking when can sleep….

Where am I?

Every one has position, has to clear path to go. May be hard, but they know the path. But where am I? I really don’t know. I can’t see front.. but can guess what could be behind. The front I am assuming, I don’t want that. If that is true, I am anxious whether I will accept that or not.

When you can finish your task before your plan

You always make a time plan in your mind that this much work will take this much of time. If you failed to complete it in time, then you had to struggle to adjust. And also this becomes a mental pressure.

But when you complete your work before time, wow, what a pleasure… then can do other work or pending work slowly

My husband’s birthday

Today is my husband’s birthday. I gave him a T-Shirt. Chocolate colored and in from there are some design with yellow. It looks nice. I hope. He likes that also

When you have too many problems

When you have too many problems you its really difficulty stay with smile face. If anyone asked you what is your problem, again very difficult to choose, what to say what shouldn’t….

Handsome husband

A few months back, I heard that overweighed people remain in a good mood. One wife was trying to diet his husband. His husband asked if you wanted a handsome, bad-behaved, or fatty, lovely husband.
Now tell me what that wife chooses? She chose a fatty lovely husband.

How do I know about this? They were arguing in front of me.

Follow my words

Generally I always do what I say. Some times if I say something just for fun, or without thinking why I am saying this, just say, but I try to follow that. Let’s always keep my word. That’s why when I say some thing to people, they take it seriously, coz they know, and generally I don’t say or do anything with out a reason.

Who gets well to see a doctor?

I faced this problem several times in my childhood. If I had got serious cold, whenever doctor came every thing is clear, no coughing.
Now a day i was feeling very sick, went to a doctor took some medicine then feel better, informed that doctor also. Then

Do you download image

To write blog every day I had to download some images. Today I was trying to download image from flicker with out login. And after down load I found the downloaded image is blank. Did you ever face this problem? Finally I had to take screen shot and use the picture. Well, not this one which I added with this post.

Maintain all roles

As a mature human, you have plenty of roles, which you have to maintain perfectly. And also you have to take care of yourself.
Some times it’s very difficult to find out which one is more important.
Actually I believe it depends on your time and situation.
I have divided my time into two parts. In my first part I give priority to others work and in second part I give priority to my personal work, then goes for other job.
But you know people always want that I give my 100% time to them. Who cares of my life, if I don’t take care of my life?