When you compare a person with an animal

 If you call someone an animal, they will get angry. However, if you call them a tiger or a lion, they will love it, because tigers and lions are famous for their bravery, not cruelty.

If you call anyone an elephant, they won't like it. No matter how intelligent and strong this animal is, people refer to it as a fat animal.

Similarly, the peacock is often seen as a symbol of beauty, whereas people often think of a crow as ugly. In fact, a crow is a very intelligent bird with a long-term memory and is socialized with other crows.

So, it doesn't matter what the animal is capable of; animals are liked or disliked by previous means of human society.

Woman outdoor

Why can't you treat a woman as a human? Why is your mind like that? A woman is only for sexual pleasure?

If a new woman joins an office, all male colleagues will go and check how beautiful she is? If not, I will be depressed. Like office recruits females for your eye's pleasure. Don't they work? Don't they give input to raise the company?

In every award function, you will see when a male comes; first, they are introduced for their work. When a woman comes, they are introduced for their beauty! Like all functions are for beauty contests, only women's beauty is considered over there. Even in a beauty competition, women had to answer and get marks on their intelligence.

Don't you want to see a woman with you at work, education, road? Don't you enjoy the company of a woman as a human? Don't you want to use her intelligence in your company?

Don't you want to let her live like a human rather than a sex toy?

 Why can't I have a male friend? To whom I can go out, discuss, and enjoy time like a human. Why would that person think that I am with him to have sex?

From far away

 Some beauty you enjoy more when you stay far away.

When you see pictures of deserts. Like camels are walking, people with very colourful dresses dancing, pictures of the sand storm, sunset in the desert etc. They all look very beautiful from far away. I won't say they don't when you stay close, but then you are also feeling the heat of the desert, sands go into your mouth and nose. Beauty comes with some consequences. When you are in the AC room, you can only see the beauty, you don't have to feel it physical hardship. I mean you are already in a comfortable position and enjoying the pictures of the desert, you may have no idea that beauty came with some terrible weather.

The same thing happens when you see the beauty of snow and winter in a cooler country. You can never imagine how painful cold can be if you never lived there.

When you see a beautiful happy family from far away, you actually can never guess what exactly happening in their life. Life isn't that beautiful, it's not heaven. That's why sometimes we see a girl/wife/husband from a happy family suddenly suicide/broke up/run away. You can't judge other's life from far away.

সুন্দর আর কালো (Beauty and Black)

[English version has given below]

হয়তো আমার গায়ের রং গাড় খয়েরী (আমার বোন আর ভাগ্নে বলে) বা কালো বলেই কথাটা নিয়ে একটু খটকা হয়েছিল।

সাধারনত: আমার সামনে কেউ কালো গায়ের রং নিয়ে কিছু বলে না। কারনটা খুব স্বাভাবিক। এ জাতীয় কথা বার্তা আমার ভালো লাগবে না। আমার মতে, কে কি রং পছন্দ করবে এটা যার যার নিজস্ব বিষয়। ফর্সা ভালো লাগলে ভালো, কালো রং যার ভালো লাগে তার জন্য সেটাই সুন্দর। এখানে কাউকে হেয় করার দরকার নেই। সত্যি কথা হলো, কারো পছন্দের উপর অন্য কারো হাত নেই।

আমার গায়ের রং যে গাড় এটা সব সময় মনে থাকত না। কারন আমার আশে পাশের লোকজন তাদের আচরন দিয়ে মনে করিয়ে দিত না। 

ইদানিং কথাটা কারো কারো কাছে একটু অন্য ভাবে শুনছি। কথায় কথায় বলে অমুক সুন্দর আর অমুক কালো। তারমানে যে সুন্দর সে ফর্সা। আর যে কালো সে অসুন্দর। প্রথমে শুনতে অন্যরকম লেগেছিল। হয় কালো - সাদা হবে , না হয় সুন্দর - অসুন্দর হবে। তারপর মনে হলো অধিকাংশ মানুষই হয়তো ফর্সা রংকে সুন্দর আর কালো কে অসুন্দর মনে করে। তাই হয়তো এভাবে বলার প্রচলন হয়েছে। যে যেভাবে দেখে। এতে তার দৃষ্টিভংগী কেমন এটাতো জানা যায়...

কানাডায় আসার পর এক সাদা মহিলা কথায় কথায় বলছিলেন, আমরা গায়ের রং রোদে পুড়িয়ে গাড় করতে পছন্দ করি। আমি বললাম, আমার এরকম করার দরকার নেই। মহিলা হেসে উত্তর দিলেন, ঠিক, আমরা চামড়া পুড়িয়ে তোমার  রং বানানোর চেষ্টা করি, আর তোমার এমনিতেই সেটা আছে। শুনে খুবই ভালো লেগেছে। এই প্রথম কেউ আমার গায়ের রং পছন্দ করলো। 

[০৬ ই ফেব্রুয়ারি, ২০০৮]

Maybe because my skin color is deep brown (As my sister and nephew said) or black, this kind of word hurt me. Let me tell you in details.

Generally, people don't say about my color, in front of me. Very natural, this kind of talking won't make me feel better. I believe it's totally personal choice who will love which color. If people likes white skin, it's their choice. If anyone likes black skin it's totally their choice. Nobody needs to under-estimate other's choice. The truth is you can't make people like what you want.

Sometimes I even forget what's my skin color is, because people around me didn't let me think about it. Now a day, I heard it differently...

Some people says, this person is beautiful and that one is black. What's this mean? Beautiful means white? And black is not beautiful? They should either say this is white and that is black or this person is beautiful and that person isn't.

Then I thought, maybe most of the people think black isn't beautiful so when they say this person is beautiful that means this person is white and that person is black, so they mean that person isn't beautiful. What can I say, at least from this way, we can understand what kind of thought these people has?

After start living in Canada, one day a Canadian white woman told me, they like to spend time in the sun to make their skin dark. I replied I don't need that. She smiled and said, yes, you have the perfect color by born, which we try to have in the sun.

I really liked this comment, for the first time someone liked my skin color!

[February 06, 2008]

Beauty and trouble

প্রথম বরফ পড়তে দেখলাম। কি সুন্দর! কি সুন্দর! ঠান্ডা কত কষ্টের, কি কষ্টের বিনিময়ে এই সৌন্দর্য! আগুন ও এমনি, কাছে যাওয়া যায়না, অথচ কি সুন্দর!

For the first time I am watching snowing. What a beauty! Cold weather is very painful. You can only feel this beauty with pain. Just like fire. You can't go near but will like to watch it's beauty...

Beauty is every where

This is a given picture in cell phone

If you are looking for beauty, you will find it everywhere. Even you may find it in garbage too. It depends on your eyes and your will power to look for it. Then you can show it to others in your way, may be through painting, picture, sculpture, writing or other way. Beauty is everywhere. You just need a eyes and good heart to realize it and feel it and a good way to show it to other.