Biography 224: A new colleague

 A new colleague joined us. I found him very friendly—I mean overly friendly. He was laughing, talking, and moving like dancing everywhere. He went to every desk to make friends. He couldn't do well with me, or he wasn't interested in making friends with me.

His best friend became our project manager. He called her Bhabi (Sister in law). Giving her all kinds of help and suggestions. She became very dependent on him. He started going to her home during lunch break with her. Her house was nearby, so she used to go to her home on lunch break. She fed her well by making new delicious items. I overheard him saying that today's chicken salad was the world's best. I agree with him. Because she brought food to the office one day, which was very delicious.

Then, one day, I heard the project manager was fired. Because she can't work alone, she doesn't have the capability to manage projects. Can you guess who complained to the owner? Her best friend, our new colleague. I was thinking, at least for a free good lunch, he should have kept her as a friend.

The project manager was gone. Next, he made friends with our head network administrator. I had a bad feeling that this network manager might fall into trouble soon. And it was. Soon, the friend complained to the owner that the network manager didn't know how to work. He looked at a book while working. The owner called the system administrator, and he decided to quit his job.

One day, I was designing the company website. I already told you I didn't make friends with the new guy. But that guy went to my close friend colleague behind my back. If I had known, I would have warned her. He said something to her. She and the new guy came to me and started suggesting ways to design the website.

She said, "Why are you working so hard to make the all buttons and links in personalized design. See Microsoft Word has so many clip art. Use those, the company owner will like the design." He also asked me to use ready made borders. Kind off force fully, by standing beside my back, keep suggesting me and made me to use those to design the website. And then asked me to send this to the owner for approval.

I thought, as they all came to me, they were looking for me and trying to rescue me. So, let's make one according to their suggestion. But I knew as he was behind me, so next, I had to leave.

Later, I heard from somewhere else. Someone said to all that I don't know how to design a website. I take help from ready-made designs. I never did that.

Biography 215: Ajoy

 When I was taking Web Development training, we were divided into two groups. One group, including me, was on the morning shift, and another group was on the day shift. Ajoy was on the day shift. All the girls were on the morning shift, with some boys. Day shifts were covered with only boys.

When you train in different groups, there is always some distance. I could feel that the day shift boys didn't like me, and they didn't like the entire morning shift. We don't bother about what they are doing or how they feel.

After the training, both groups mixed up and became small groups, and all started working in the office. At that time, I was in the Java Group, and Ajoy was in the R&D (Research and Development) group. This group believed they were the best, so they were in that group.

There is nothing wrong with feeling great; it's wrong to feel others are small. Again, I never said anything about it or argued about it.

When I joined the training, I didn't have a computer. While training, I asked my dad to buy me a computer, and he bought me a desktop computer. In those days, laptops were too expensive. I bought my first laptop after joining college in Canada.

My colleague Shampa wrote all the configurations that I might need. Her younger brother helped her. Another colleague Romel was with me and my dad. Because I had no idea about computer hardware, after bringing all the pieces (CPU, Monitor, Sound boxes, Keyboard, Mouse, and printer + scanner), I didn't know how to put them together.

I asked my colleague Arif if he could come to my house and assemble everything? He hesitated; maybe he was busy. He told me to ask another person. I said, whom should I ask. (By nature, it is very difficult for me to ask for help. If somehow I get rejected, it becomes more difficult for me to go somewhere else) Arif then calls "Ajay." Ajoy came. Arif asked if Ajoy could help me with computers at home. Without a second thought, he said, Yes, I can.

That was a great relief for me. He came to our house and fixed everything. We became more friendly. But he was on the day shift, so we didn't talk much.

One day, Bappi was checking out some Photoshop effects. The pictures were not very conservative, so he asked me to give him a picture of mine. He would put those effects on it. I gave it. Then Bappy showed me how those effects worked. Then I thought he had deleted my picture; who wouldn't?

After some time, one day, Ajoy said, I took a copy of Adobe from the office, and when I ran, I found your picture with effects. I knew what happened. I told Ajoy you must have taken it from Bappy's computer; he did that practice on effects.

Another day, Tuheen and I went out together. I was feeling very low. I told Tuheen, can you do something that may make me feel good. Tuheen took me to Ajoy's place. He was living with some other boys. The house looks like a boy's hostel. The boys became very busy to treat two girls. They made "Alur chop (Potato cake)." Told us about the girls who live nearby buildings. We talk about our careers and so many things. It was a great moment.

In that house, I met with Ajoy's friend, who owned an IT company. Later, he helped me with some documentation.

After marrying, Ajoy invited us to his apartment. I met his wife. She is a very beautiful and intelligent woman. Ajoy had shown her pictures before. When we met, I learned that her cooking skills were very good, and she treated me like her friend.

While training, we all (more or less) contributed to developing a portal. Later, Ajoy and his friend redeveloped it. Ajoy told me that if needed, I could mention in my resume that I was one of the developers, too. I did say it once. Later, I found out that Ajoy hadn't informed his friends about it, and his friends didn't like that.

Nowadays, Ajoy lives in the USA with his family.

conflict between two of ur colleague

When you found, two of your colleague are fighting physically, you can enjoy it like wrestling. Until it become too serious. And when cold war starts it’s really difficult to handle. Both will want you to their side and you can’t do that. Coz, you don’t like to dishearten any one.

To handle this you have stay quite until the problem solves by it self. If you want to solve it by taking some initiative, then 2 things can happen

1. U will make the total think worst.

2. Both of ur colleague will forget their war between them, and you will become both of their enemy.

Let’s think positive, all will be happy and appreciate u, you have 2% chance of it among 100%.