No funny comment.

 I have to hold myself back from making a funny comment on anyone. Maybe because of my serious face, people take things seriously. So, when I say something funny about them, they don't get the funny part. They take that seriously and most of the time get offended.

Only people who know me very well know how funny I am. Only they laugh out of their hearts.

Anyway, I think I have already disheartened two of my colleagues. May Allah help me. I am going to hold my tongue forever, and keep remembering myself, no fun, no funny comment. I don't afford to make more enemies in my life.

Biography 108: Comments about my face

 In my school, I heard the first bad comment about my face, on my face. One of my classmates told me, your face is like "Bosteer meye" (which means, A girl who came from a slam area). It hurts. But in my mind, I agree with her.

I don't like to iron my dresses, so you can imagine how I looked like in my school dress. I didn't know how to comb or set my hair. I didn't put anything on my face, like cream, powder etc. Make-up wasn't allowed in school. My skin colour is dark. I don't have a beautiful face, yes I knew it, that she was right. Though it hurt me.

Then I looked at her. Well, I felt she looked the same, though she had fair skin colour. But that made me feel a little better.

She used to live in Khilgaon. Her dad later made their own house. It was a little far away from our school. She uses to walk always. Bangladesh is a hot and humid country. Because of walking in the sun, her head sculps were covered with "Foska" / blister.

The last news I had about her is she became a professor at Jagannath University. Wish her all the best. I didn't get angry on that day, nor today.

In school, I didn't hear directly like this any more times. But later... I heard a lot. I never claimed as a beautiful woman, but people felt good and don't want to let me forget by reminding me how ugly I am.

এখন একটু সাবধানে কমেন্ট করি ফেসবুকে (Now I became aware on commenting in Facebook)

একটা সময় ছিল যখন ফেসবুকে যে পোস্ট ভাল লাগত, সেটাতেই কমেন্ট করতাম বা লাইক দিতাম. আমি যে কত বড় বোকা সেটা অল্প সময়েই টের পেলাম. কারন সবাই আমার উপস্থিতি পছন্দ করে না.

তাই একটু সাবধান হয়ে গিয়েছি. কোথাও কমেন্ট করার আগে, দেখে নেই, এই ব্যক্তি কি আমার কমেন্ট পেয়ে বিরক্ত হবে? কি দরকার অযথা মানুষকে বিব্রত করার. তারপরও ভুল হয়েই যায় কখনোও কখনোও. কি আর করা. একবার মেজাজ দেখালে বা ইগনোর করলে, আর ওখানে যাই না. আগে এমনটা করলে ব্লক করে দিতাম. দেখতেও হবে না, যোগাযোগও হবে না. এখন সহ্য ক্ষমতা বেড়েছে. কিছু না বলে চুপচাপ দুরে থাকি.
হয়তো অনলাইনে আমি একটু বেশি সময় দেই. হয়তো কারো লেখা গভীর আগ্রহে দেখি আর নতুন লেখার জন্য অপেক্ষা করি. আর নিজের কষ্ট বাড়াই.

সবারই কাজ কর্ম আছে. অন্যের লেখার দিকে তাকিয়ে থাকলে জীবন চলে না. সবাইকে তাদের মতো ছেড়ে দেয়াই ভাল. যার ইচ্ছা করবে, সে নিজেই সময় দিবে. চাইতে হবে কেন? আমার নিজেরও উচিত নিজেকে সময় দেয়া. তাহলে অন্যেও শান্তিতে থাকবে :) তাছাড়া আমার উন্নতিতে হয়তো আরো অনেকে লাভবান হবেন.

Previously, I used to comment on and like anyone's posts on Facebook if I liked them. But then I realized how foolish I was because everyone didn't want to see my presence.

So, I became aware that I first checked who had posted the post before commenting or giving. Will that person be annoyed because of my comment? Why should I disturb people? But still, sometimes, I make mistakes. I can't prevent them.

Generally, when anyone shows me anger or ignores me, I don't go there. Previously, I used to block those persons. Now, my tolerance power has increased, so I just ignore them.

I may be spending too much time online. I may wait to see some people's posts and new writing, which actually hurts me. Why would I wait for anyone?

Everyone has their own work. People can't live by thinking about other's writing. I should let everyone live their own world. If anyone wants to give time, they will give. Why should I ask for it?

If I concentrate on my life, then others may live happy. :) If I live better, it may benefit others, too.

When you say, say well about the person

Generally what we do? We meet people, we discuss about others, and off course we say or give bad info about others. And people felt happy, when they say and hear something wrong about others. Why is this? Do you like to have same thing happen with you too? You will say, I didn’t do anything like that. Yes, maybe you didn’t but you must have done something else, and people can talk about that.

When I was in Dhaka University, as a student, I found a girl named Zeba, is totally different with this kind of attitude. I have seen she always says good things about people. I surprise, to see that, when anybody does anything good or just say any good comment to other. She tells this to other person. Those people get to know that someone is talking good about them. And they became good friends. Everywhere she was giving the positive energy.

I wanted to grab this good attitude, from then I have stopped saying any bad comments about others. No matter how true they are. I started hide others bad things and say only about good things. I don’t lie, but only those truths. It really makes me happy.

Self confidence

You will often see people comment badly about you, your looks, your work, and your success. You have to know which one is true and which is not. Otherwise, if you start believing them, they will make you a permanent loser, like if you are good at singing. But your family and friends never encourage you. They might say you are okay but not good enough. And if you start believing that you will never be a good singer. Believe in yourself. Ask yourself, if you don’t get a chance from others, it doesn’t mean that is your fault. Maybe others couldn’t understand. Keep searching your way. And have faith in you. You might change your fortune.