When you assume

 When you assume something, especially if it's negative, don't share it with anyone. Others may believe it and start having negative feelings. By the time you have the right information, it will be too late to stop the negative consequences. In most cases, you can't fix it anymore. This is very wrong.

They helped and then ruin it

 I have seen arrogant people, dictator-type persons or people who things they are the best, like me. I have always thought about it. Why do they like me? I am not like them. I don't like their dictatorship attitude. Then why? Then suddenly one day I become their number one enemy. They put full force to destroy me. This circle happened a couple of times with me.

A few days ago one of my colleagues said to another person, in front of me that I don't have any voice, that's why people like me. I didn't like his opinion or didn't agree with him. But also didn't say anything to him. I was thinking, maybe this is the reason. This is why this kind of thing happening to me.

As I don't complain, don't take revenge, people think I don't have any voice. They like me. Well, I am not a harmful person and I don't like to hurt people. That doesn't mean, I can't. So, for any reason, if I spoke up or take any action, the dictator become surprised. They understood, they misunderstood me and then do their best (Or I can say they keep trying) to ruin me.

This happened so many times in my career. How many hits can I take? Maybe they fail at the beginning but in the end, they won.

No matter what they did with me, I never hurt them, moreover sometimes helped them in their bad situation. That surprises them too. And sometimes they keep searching for the motive of my action. Oh, I can't stop them.

Handle lie and misunderstanding

I always faced problem and still facing with lie and misunderstanding. Still couldn't make any solution. Whenever I fall in trap of lie or misunderstanding, my heart breaks, I just become silent, nothing to prove the truth, no effort for solution. I don’t feel any strength to fight for me and my reputation. Because I don’t say worse side (even when it’s true) about others, people say many things about me. Well, it’s their nature, and they like to do this. When any of my well wisher believes those lie or misunderstands that dishearten me. My heart says, “You know me for many days, why did you believe this kind of word about me”. That makes me stop again. If you believe those things about me, then you don’t need to keep communication with me. Stay happy with distance.

History repeats. Now, my son is facing these problems. I never could protect or save myself from lie and misunderstanding, how can I help my son? Good news is he is not like me. He tells them”it’s a lie, I didn’t do this.” Though people don’t believe him, but at least he raises his voice. I tried to help him as much as I could. I tells them, what happened, now if they don’t take it what else I can do. I hope someday my son will find out how to prevent lie and misunderstanding. 

I, with my friends shouldn’t have any misunderstanding

I might like to have someone’s company; I like to be their friend, unless I felt that they want me to go. I always make this mistake, when anyone make good behave with me, I start thinking they are like my friends. I like to keep communication with them. But you know, someday I might find that actually they don’t want my company, its OK  Sorry, that I didn't understand it before. What can I do, I am so stupid.

I can like a person as a friend; can keep communication with them, does it mean that I am cheating my husband? No way. My husband knows I have friends, many of them are boys. And he also knows I always keep some short of distance with them. I like them; I chat, call, discuss, and help them when they have any problem. I like their company; it doesn't mean that I will forget my son and his father.

I might like my friends company; I will like spend time with them, when they are my friends. Misunderstanding can be happen with friends, it doesn't mean they will hurt each other. If anybody can hurt me, again and again, then whatever they are, they don’t like me, and I better not disturb them. I can’t be a disturbing element of anybody’s life.

If you want me to go, I will leave you immediately. No matter how I feel, I can’t force anybody to like me. My husband also knows that. If I know he likes someone else, not me, I will not force him to love me… he can forget me, but his son.