A nice fragrance

Yesterday, when I was saying my Zahar prayer after 2pm, suddenly I smell a nice fragrance which stayed few minutes. It’s from any perfume or deodorant. First I thought, my husband must have dropped his cloth here and there (he has very bad habit of it) and the fragrance might be coming from there. I looked all around me, didn’t find anything. Then I thought, may be my son is playing with the bottle of a body spray. No, he was playing game on my cell phone. Then I thought, my husband might have forgotten to close the bottle (he has this bad habit too). I look on my wardrobe, but again all bottles are nicely closed. I really couldn’t found, from where this fragrance came. Now only one thing can happen. Someone near our flat used it and so I got the fragrance.

After prayer I finished my cooking and sit for lunch. While taking lunch, I opened facebook, and saw one of my facebook friend is also sayed something about fragrance. What a coincidence!

I use to see this view in the morning.

I use to see this view in the morning. Now if I look through this window, I will see only wall of a new apartment. 

Dhaka city, when it gets changes

I think Dhaka, is one of the most rapid changing city of this world. In every occasion or situation it gets changes. And again it took no time to get back on its own face.

During flood most of the road gone under the water. Then only boats were available to transport. People use to call a boat, fix the rent then went to their destination. On that moment, it seems we were always lived like that.

In election time, every minute there will be a rally with placard. You will feel, this is a never ending moment and will always like to know which party is now making their rally.

One day before Eid I went out for some reason and I found traffic jam of the city has gone. Felt better. Then everywhere, I could see are cow dung and straw or cattle food. Some are selling some buying. People are going towards their home with a cow (mostly) or goat. Everyone was happy. It’s really a pleasure situation. It looks that Dhaka city was always lived with cattle.

After Eid, I had to go out again. This time again didn’t get any traffic jam. But when I was returning home at night, I have seen big jam in Shamoly road. I understood, Dhaka is becoming Dhaka again. The only Eid lightening I saw in on the Hotel Ruposhi Bangla and in front of its road island. In this Eid I saw few people (except people who are dating) go out with new dresses with children to have some good time in out. Some are going to the relatives houses with big bag of meat. This is the Dhaka situation in Eid Ul Azha. Nice time to enjoy.

The first toy of a child

Tameem (my elder sister’s son) trying to run the spinner for Shafeen (my son).

In Bangladesh, the first toy of a child is this (you can see it in the picture), a spinner toy. And I have seen every child loves it, Shafeen too. He still kept the rest of its body (yes, off course, he had broken it).

Eid Mubarak

My son Shafeen (he was 3 and half years old) decorated my hand with henna. He is the only man, who wants to make me look beautiful.

You may ask, why so late. It’s not late, you know, this Eid continues for 3 days. Only 1 day passed. So, I can easily say Eid Mubarak (for Eid Ul Ajza). Have a great Eid and enjoy your times.

Shafeen and Tameem are playing with a rocking chair

Shafeen and Tameem (my elder sister’s son) are playing with a rocking chair. Here Shafeen was 1 year and 2 months old.

It was Tameem’s rocking chair, and then it broke. But Shafeen likes to play with it. Now its condition became worst. So, I had to pick it up somewhere else. Till now Shafeen ask me to give him that rocking chair. He also says, I will be alert, so broken chair won’t be able to make any harm to me. As a mother, how can I listen to him? 

Every relation has some expectations, some boundaries and some accepting level.

Every relationship has some expectations, boundaries, and accepting levels. But these are not the same for everyone and may vary between people.

My favourite and most comfortable relationship is friendship. I love them. I care for them. Whether they like me as a friend or not, I will help them (if needed) as much as I can. They all have negative and positive things. Some of them take hard drinks, chew tobacco, cheat, steal others' money, and have different views on many things from different religions; some don’t believe in religion. I like them all for their many positive things. Indeed, I won’t like to see them doing my “not favourite” things in front of me, but I won’t break my friendship. I really want my friend to be with me, always.

The most flexible relation is parent-child relations. No matter what you do, your parents or your child may forgive you and will always love you. Again, there are many differences here, too. Some parents may forgive and try to save their child even after the murder; some parent may kick their child out of their life if they get married by themselves. In my case, my parent accepted my choice. Though they didn’t like it, they didn’t give me any single objection. Even now, they don’t ask me once why I live like this.

The most restricted relationship is marriage. Some couples are very flexible with each other, some not. But in most cases, nobody will allow cheating, bad behaviour, etc. I guess my husband gives me flexibility in many areas because I never force him to do anything. Even if that breaks my heart, I will never stop him. He is like a free bird.

But there are limitations to everything. I have patience, but that has a limit too.

A toy plane

Shafeen trying to understand the new creature

There was a toy plane for Tameem (my elder sister’s son). The specialty of the plane was its big eye’s. It could move. Every child liked that plane. Like Shafeen (my son) and Dia (my youngest sister’s daughter). You can see Shafeen, how curious was he by having that plane.

He said, "I won’t do this anymore"

Shafeen, in his back you can see  a very small part of Bashundhara city complex. Where you can find butterfly. 

Everyday my son tells me “I won’t do this anymore” from 1 to 10 times. And I trust him, again and again (at least I show him that I trust you). Because I want to make him see that I trust you, so don’t break my trust. I hope someday my son will understand that. And will keep his promise. 

Shafeen in winter

Shafeen is with woolen cap, in Farida clinic

Shafeen was born in winter. I was afraid; he might get cold any time. But later found he doesn’t need cold hats. It makes him sweated.

Do you like to see the movie “Spider man” in 3d in Cineplex?

Do you like to see the movie “Spider man” in 3d in Cineplex? Then you have to take your ticket one day earlier. We didn't know about it so we went there and didn't get chance to see the movie…. then took tickets for the next day. This time we took ticket for Shafeen too, because he will also need glasses to view the movie.

When I saw this movie trailer before, I thought this new hero won’t be able mark his name as spider man like the previous one. But today after watching the movie I found, I was wrong. He is really successful with his new impression. And in the theater my son (3 years and 10 months old) decided not to wear the glasses and watched it like 2D. But anyway all liked the movie.

Shafeen at Farida clinic.

Shafeen at mom’s (my elder sister’s) lap at Farida clinic. My sister (Sharmin) is the first person who took responsibility to clean up my son, because after operation, I couldn’t move.

I don’t want to lose you, my friends

I am not asking you to do something for me, not asking to give me time, not even asking to call me or chat with me. Well if any day it needed I might ask that, but you are always free to say "no". I don’t expect anything from you, because I don’t want to lose you. Just be there and let your life going. Some day you may marry, have kid, and start new business or career. Have a good life. But don’t delete me from your life. I really don’t want to miss you.

I am your friend and well wisher. You can talk with me anytime for any reason, you can feel that your this friend is always there. You will never be alone.

I will not disturb you people anytime... that’s not my nature. We can see each other and see our work each other virtually. And always make give each other good times. So, please be there. And don’t make me miss you. I don’t want to miss you.

Just after born, Shafeen somehow get annoyed by the earth people.

Shafeen, in Farida Clinic

Just after birth, Shafeen somehow gets annoyed by the earth people. You can see his face. Some also said the son gets anger from his mother. But later, I proved that was wrong. When I get angry, I never get cool (well, for a long time), and when Shafeen gets angry after a few minutes, he starts laughing… forgetting all anger.

How other people are so smart?

I wish that I could reduce some of my daily tasks. Every day, whenever I see some work, I start thinking, yes, I have to do it daily.. Now the list became too big, to even think about to complete. And obviously I couldn't complete it ever.

Now my first priority is my son. After that… food for me (you saw my size). Then ... Well I never could complete all so there is no then. I always think how other can do their job nicely and make time for them too. I wish I can do the same... Do everything in time.

Shafeen on Tameem’s lap

Even now, Shafeen prays to Allah, that “please make me little again”, that he can sit on his (Tameem’s) lap again. Shafeen loves his cousin bro very much.

Only two persons really can remove my anger.

I am a human, I have anger too. But very few people saw it, because I always keep it inside me. I don’t like anger. I don’t like shouting, taking revenge or hitting people. If I can’t show good behave with you, I will remain quite.

But inside me the anger always burns me. I became dishearten. I don’t know how to get rid of this anger. But I found only two intelligent people who really can remove my anger swift and make my mind happy in two different ways. I felt there is no anger in my mind at all. But I even didn't tell them ever about this quality. Let me keep this deep in my heart again.

Children like to play with eggs

Shafeen (my son) watching his chicken laying eggs, was 1 year and 1 months old

Dia (my youngest sister's daughter) watching her duck laying egg was 2 years old.

Bangladeshi don’t believes in riot

We the Bangladeshi people never believed in riot. Here, we are living many together for decades with all religious people. After Magreeb prayer when I start preparing for Salat ul Magrib, I can hear the bell ring of puja from Hindu people and also the sound of shankha. We don’t mind… we all have different view in religion and everyone is doing their own.

I have seen Mandir and Masjeed are placed in one place. Only a boundary wall is dividing two places. But people don’t disturb each other’s prayer.

In cox’s bazaar, all tourist, no matter from which religion they come from, went to visit the Buddha Mandir. They give money to them, not to the God, but for the Bangladeshi people who are working over there.

We all Bangladeshi, we don’t believe in riot. We never made any riot. No matter who tries and play game with our religions and country, we won’t make any riot. Because, we are all Bangladeshi people and we don’t like riot.

Child labor

Dia, 1 year and 2 months old

Shafeen, 1 year and 11 months old

Shafeen, 1 year and 1 months old

Children like to sweep until you make it as their duty.

To get better result, you need sound mind and body

I am not telling to have good result sound mind and body is a must. We know many people over comes their all problem and give a very good achievement. But in general it’s really difficult to overcome a disturbed mind and body.

If we want a good nation, prospered nation, then first, we should take care of people’s health. For good health we need good food, in production, pesticide, storage, cooking or eating, we have to take care in every stage of it. Without good food or healthy food we can’t expect good people with sound mind and body…

Tameem and Shafeen on rolling chair

Tameem (my elder sister’s son) liked to hold his brother Shafeen (my son) on his lap and move round with the rolling chair.

People, who jumps on facebook too much

From my personal experience what I have learned that, those people, who jumps on any issue, in facebook, too much, actually can’t (or don’t) do anything in real life. If they do anything that looks big actually don’t make any significance change or remark in real life. But one thing they must do is playing with people emotion.

So, never worry about any issue, which is placed in facebook.

Tameem and Shafeen

Shafeen was 1 year old

Shafeen was 11 months old

Tameem bro (my elder sister's son) and Shafeen (my son)

Brought a new phone set

Only those people will understand the pain, who ever lost their phone. For the first time I am facing it. I have collected back one of my sim (banglalink), didn’t collected back the airtel sim (if you stolen my airtel sim, then you can use it by recharging it). Now I have brought a new cell phone. If you want to keep communicate with me then please send me your cell phone no (with your name please) in message or you can send your phone number to my email address (or facebook) too. 

Smoking morning

I never say anything

I dislike many things about people. And I like many more things about them. I never say anything about my disliking to other. But sometimes people don’t understand that and keep repeating the same thing which I can’t tolerate. I don’t miss behave with anyone. And expect, people won’t do that with me too. But you know… people thinks, this person never say anything back, so we can say anything to her and enjoy her pain.