Myths believed by doctors.

 There are some myths that all doctors believe. One is that when a mother brings her child with a problem, there is actually no problem, and mom is worrying for nothing. I have seen this myth followed by doctors everywhere.

My suggestion is that you can believe anything you want. But as a doctor, if mom is saying something, please check it out and make sure there is no problem before declaring it.

I have seen many people suffer only because of this myth. Doctors didn't check properly because Mom was the one who pointed out the problem.

The equipment's that not use regularly

 In a family physician's clinic, doctors may have separate rooms for examining patients. In most cases, family physicians don't check up on any emergency patients. For any emergency case, they recommend going to the hospital or calling 911 (emergency paramedics will check the patient first).

In this scenario, doctors don't need to put all the equipment in every single room. The doctor may take or ask someone to bring in a cart if any non-regular equipment is needed. Otherwise, if they keep all the equipment in every single room, it is a waste of money and space. And that equipment becomes unusable after years, as it is not touched, cleaned, or tested.

The teen girl was waiting for 2 months

 The doctor told us that my father's kidneys were not working. My dad asked what we could do. The doctor said my dad had to have a small operation and put something on his hand (I forgot the name), and through that, he had to dialysis his kidneys every week.

The doctor recommended that we go to Dhaka Medical College. It is a very small operation that will take little time, and we can save money this way.

In those days, Shafeen was a toddler. I used to carry his diapers, food, and dresses in my backpack. Then, I held his one hand (I didn't want him to run here and there), and with the other hand, I used to hold my dad. Shafeen never disturbed me while I was busy with his grandfather, moving from one place to another, one hospital to another. I just had to clean him, feed him, and keep an eye on him.

We made an appointment for the operation and went there on the due date. Other patients were also waiting for their operations. Everyone has a serial number.

Beside me, there was a teenage girl who was in pain in her lower abdomen. She was saying I can't stand the pain anymore. Doctors couldn't find out what exactly happened, so they came here, and the doctor said they would open her up to know and fix her. But she has been here for two months. Her operation date has been changing one after another. No doctor is making her operation. She was saying she would cut her belly with a blade by herself.

Her sister was there with her. She was exhausted from this extended time of waiting without any treatment or operation. She said that every week they waited here, then at the end, the doctors said, no, today they won't be able to operate on her. She said that at home, her husband and kids also became impatient. How long can she stay with her sister this way? She was saying she would leave her sister alone here. By hearing this her sister (the patient) started crying.

The sister was telling me. Here, in this medical college, they give free food of good quality. People eat them, and then they make the washroom dirty. The cleaners clean it so perfectly every morning that it looks like a new one. But people don't use it properly, and in a short time, they make the whole washroom dirty. She can't stay like this.

My father was the second last person to operate on that day. That means that after him, that teen girl should go for an operation. My father's operation was successful. I meet with him and take him back home. While returning home, I overheard two young doctors saying to each other, one said, I won't operate this; you do. Others saying no, I don't want to. I will cancel the operation date.

I couldn't say anything; it's their matter; they knew better. But I felt very sad. I wish I could tell them, please look after this poor girl. She has been waiting for a long time. She needs you guys' attention.

A doctor and a lawyer

 My mom wanted to make one of her kid doctors, another one a lawyer. She said this many times, it is very helpful for a family if they have a doctor and a lawyer in the family.

She wanted to make my older sister a doctor. Because she is very good in academic study. But she never wanted to be a doctor. I was very afraid of needles. If a lab tester put their needles in her body to take some blood to test, she got faint. To stop my mother's pressure she had started doing her study in commerce.

According to my parents, I was very poor in math (Or study). So, there is no chance that I can study science or can get admitted to a medical college. But my mom wanted me to be a lawyer. She said once, the way I put logic in arguments she believe I can do good in law. But again, I thought the law isn't an interesting subject. I liked to travel all around the world. So, I did my major in Geography & Environment.

My 3rd sister is Sonia. She didn't like to do study, but she was the most meritorious student among all siblings. So, we all decided she will be the doctor. She didn't make up her mind before we had already made her study in a medical college. She didn't mind and now she became the doctor in our family.

She got married to a doctor too. Now a day, whenever we have any health-related consult, we go to them. I understand now, why mom wanted a doctor in the family. I don't know what they feel about doing free health services to the whole family. I hope not bad.

My fourth sister gave a lot of trouble to my parent in studying. My parents had no hope that she can ever become a doctor. But the reality is she became a dentist. She got married to a dentist. So, now we have two dentists in the family. For any dental problem, we go to them, sometimes they had to help us with the medical problems too. We get discounts in their dental clinic too. My sister and her husband became very helpful in the family.

But we don't have a lawyer. I really feel now, we should have a lawyer too.

Doctors

 In my immediate family, we have 4 doctors. My 2 sisters and their husbands are doctors. But still, I don't like doctors. I can't say this to their face. Because I need their help. 

I don't know why in my tests no problem found. This happened in both Bangladesh and Canada. When I become ill too much, that I can't stand on my foot. I go the hospital, and then they found nothing. After getting a painkiller and one-night observation I return. This happens many times with me in both countries. I don't know what is the reason. They just told me, they didn't find any problem in my body.

I'm maintaining a healthy life. I never smoked or take a hard drink. I stopped drinking soft drinks, ice cream and sugar. Well, there is some exception on these three items but mostly I follow. I do stretching every day (Again, I try to do it every day).

For many years, I didn't visit any doctor because didn't get sick. Now I'm sick of doctors and tests.

Now a day most of the time. I just can't work. Why? Is it my mental problem? Oh, Allah! I'm trying hard to fix everything with and around me. And I will keep trying. As long as I can. It may be a tiny bit every day, but I will keep trying. Unless I became totally mad.

We had to go to a doctor regularly

When Shafeen was infant we had to go to a doctor regularly for his vaccine and other problems. This picture was taken when Shafeen was 2 months and 2 days old. Tameem (my elder sister’s son) was also with us.