My son’s theory on Cricket balls and football

Here Shafeen used a train as a bat and football as a cricket ball. He was 2 years and 8 months old.

Everyone has their own theory on games, my son had too. He believes cricket ball should be bigger like football. Because we had to hit it with bat, so it had to be bigger that a batsman can easily aim and hit. Football plays with legs so can be easily played with small balls.

Security checking only for woman

Shafeen (my son) in front of Bashundhara city complex

If you ever visited Bashundhara city complex you must have seen their security system at the door. They gave female security guard for woman (should be). First there were wooden temporary shelters for this checking system, now they build permanent shed for this kind of checking. If a woman (almost all) carry a bag she had to open it to the guard for checking. All this security system is only for woman (should I feel proud?).

But boys don’t need to face this kind of security checking. They can carry any bag (backpack or suitcase) and without opening it then can take it to the mall. I guess this complex authority only afraid of woman. 

নানা কারনে ছেলের ক্লাস মিস দিতে হয়

We went out and found Shafeen facing problem in his eyes

আমি স্কুলে উপস্থিতির জন্য পুরস্কার পেয়েছি। কারন আমার বাবা-মা। সহজে ক্লাস মিস হতে দিতেন না। আমার ছেলের জন্য আমি সেরকম মা হতে পারিনি। প্রায়ই কোন না কোন কারনে ক্লাস মিস হয়। কখনও ঘুম ভাংগে না, কখনও প্রচন্ড মাথা ব্যাথা থাকে বলে ওকে নিয়ে যেতে পারিনা, কখনও বাসার সামনে ময়লা পানি জমে বলে। আজ শাফিনের কারনেই ওকে স্কুলে নিয়ে যেতে পারলাম না। চোখ উঠেছে। তাও সকালে ঘুম থেকে তুলে দিয়েছিলাম। কিন্তু ও বলল, চোখে ঠিক মতো দেখতে পাচ্ছে না.. ইত্যাদি। 

Free T-shirt

My son was 2 years and 5 months old, wearing t-shirt with the image of “Salt”.

If you buy a package movie ticket from Start Cineplex they will give you a t-shirt too. But remember, you have to have slim figure to wear it. Otherwise you have to give it to some other person. Like I did, now it’s my son’s t-shirt.

If we don’t educate humanity to our kids, then from where they will learn?

Me with kids

Generally boys became closer to mom than girls. In the same way girls became daddy’s favorite kid than boys. My younger boy was little different. Generally he never goes to my mom unless he needs something. One day I read a poem from my school book “choyonika” (it’s not available now). It was “Bayojeed Bostami” and explained to him (It’s about a boy, whose mom asked water and then fall in sleep. The boy woke up and went too far place to bring a glass of water and stand still next to mom until she woke up to give her water).  After that I saw my brother changed, he started stay near to mom and listen to her (well his attitude didn’t stay for long).  And I found that a good writing can really make a person better.

I believe if we put good writing, poem of our good poets in our text books, the kid will learn how to love their motherland, how to love the environment of our country, how to respect our parent etc. They won’t learn anything if they get to know that one bridge was get fired and drop down, or some kids fall down from a hill or any egg drops and break down.

Eating

"This is why mum don’t let me eat by myself." Here Shafeen was 2 years and 5 months old

I like to train my son to grow up well. But you sometimes my tiredness wins. I really can’t spend my whole day just for cleaning. Let me clear to you. Whenever I let my son to eat food by himself, he messes my room. And also waste most of the food. To avoid these problems I still feed him. The result is he didn’t learn well to eat by himself. I hope someday he will without my training. At least in school he had to take his Tiffin by himself.

Making fool of others

There is a Bangle proverb, if I translate, it will be like this, “Even if the elephant fall and get stuck in mud, frogs kicks them (take the chance)”. It’s so true. I have seen whenever people get option to make fool of others to have any benefit, they take it. No humanity, no ideology, nothing works in their mind. They laugh, they enjoy, feels lucky and proud to themselves, that yes, they didn't missed or let go this chance to make fool or take benefit from others. And they felt they deserve it. Who can make them think that you are wrong? May be they will understand only then, when someone else do it with them the same thing in a same way.

ঘরের পোষাক পরেই বাইরে কাজে বের হতে পারলে হয়তো ভাল হতো (It would have been good, if we could go out without changing)

Shafeen is getting ready for school. He was 4 years and 2 months old

কেউ কেউ আছেন, যেখানে যাবার দরকার হয় চট করে রেডি হয়ে চলে যান। আমি সেই দলে নেই। আমার রেডি হতে অনেক সময় লাগে। নাহ নিজের জন্য না, সংসার আর ছেলেকে গুছিয়ে বের হতে অনেক সময় লাগে। নিজের জন্য শুধু ড্রেসটা বদলাই। জামা ইস্ত্রি করার সময়ও হয়না। আমি জানি অন্তত: সানব্লক লাগানো উচিত। কিন্তু সেটা করতেও মনে হয় সময় বেশি খরচ হচ্ছে।

আর এমনিতেও কোথাও যেতে হবে ভাবলেও মনে হয় জ্বর আসে। একবার বের হলে বাকি কাজ করতে কোন খারাপ লাগে না। অনেকটা শীতের দিনে গোসল করার কথা ভাবলে যেমন লাগে তেমন। অথচ রোজই কাজে বাইরে যেতে হয়।

এর ব্যতিক্রম হয় শুধু কোন সুন্দর জায়গায় ঘুরতে যাওয়ার বেলায়। তখন আমার কোন ক্লান্তি থাকে না। ব্যাগ ট্যাগ গুছিয়ে না না প্ল্যান করতে করতে রওনা হয়ে যাই। তবে এমন দিনে আর সহজে আসে না।

There are some people who could get ready and go out within 10 minutes. I wish I could do that too. But I always take long time to get ready. Actually not for myself, for my kid and house hold work. I only change the dress before going out. Even don’t manage time to press my dresses. I knew, at least I should put up some sun block on face, but can’t even invest time on it.

Whenever I need to go out I feel sick. But after going out I do all my work nicely. It’s like thinking about taking bath in winter.

Only difference is when I go out for travel any new place. Then nothing is problem, I pack up all bags, get dressed, make plans etc and go out without any tiredness. But you know that moment doesn’t come very often. 

My best helping hand

This picture is taken when my son was 2 years and 4 months old.

Shafeen is always mom’s best helping hand. No matter how much he makes his mom annoyed, he never gives up helping her, especially in cooking. Yesterday my maid came with her daughter to help her. My son inspired more to see that. He asked me how I can help you now. I replied, please put up all the toys from the floor. He did it with joy. 

For travel lover, who doesn't have money to go wherever they want to go

Milonchhori bamboo cottage, Bandarban, Bangladesh

If you like traveling, you will like to visit new places whenever you have time (and money). There are 3 kinds of place you may choose according to your timing (and money). For very short time you may like to go to a place inside your city or just across the city. If you have 2/3 days then you might plan for a place inside country. If you have 4 or more than that, you may thing to go abroad.

So make a list on hard paper or on PC or cell phone. The new places you want to go, keep the authorized contact no, keep info about the closing days (like Sunday or some other day), timing (if there any opening time or closing), per day cost (if need to stay). This will help you to make plan when suddenly you found some time that you can take your bags and go away….

When money (not only the time) is your big problem, because you have a lot in your list to have for your life, then you can start saving money to fulfill your one wish list. Then a place to go, again get another thing from your wish list. This way you will get whatever you need, also can plan to go anywhere. You really need to go places for sometimes, to live, to breathe.

Wherever you go, you can make a small group for it. It will be better if you choose similar minded (match economically or where all have kids or all student or all from office or all from family or best friends) people in one group. It will give you more fun in your journey and also may help to reduce total cost.