Monday, October 6, 2025

Biography 304: My Boro Khala (Aunt) - Shaaree


 Boro Khala always looks great in a Shaaree (saari). I have seen that no matter what kind of shaaree it is, she can manage well and wear it very organized way. Whether it was a hard new cotton shaaree or silk, she made it look elegant in an effortless way. She knows simple tricks to make all the Shaaree manage well.

If I am not wrong, Shaaree is her favourite gift.

Saturday, October 4, 2025

Civic sense about noise


 There are some common civic senses that apply to every community around the world. The most common is making noise. You can make noise when necessary, such as grinding spices, running a vacuum cleaner, moaning, watching a movie at high volume, singing loudly, walking so strongly that people below you can hear your footsteps, etc. However, these activities should be done between 7 am and 11 pm. After 11 pm, you need to be very mindful of sounds. If you are watching TV, keep the volume low. Also, avoid doing any work that could disturb your neighbour, such as running a washing machine or dryer.

In the city, we must carefully manage things like noise. It's not until other disturbances occur that you truly realize.

Sometimes people make noise unintentionally. They might have no control over it or do so by mistake. You may find it difficult to sleep or rest. But we are all human, so we should forgive our neighbours too.


Friday, October 3, 2025

Biography 304: My Boro Khala (Aunt) - Criticism


 One day, I made something to eat. It wasn't good. I knew my family would strongly criticize me. They were doing that. Boro Khala came and tasted it. Then she said, "It is good, just got burnt at the edge, otherwise, it is cooked well."

That made me feel good. I realize you can point out a mistake without hurting others.

Wednesday, October 1, 2025

Don't force your choice on others


 I like freedom. That's why I try to give others around me the freedom to be themselves. They can bring friends or anyone home at any time. They can get their opinion or suggestion to me on any topic or situation. I always try to accept others' thoughts as much as possible.

Sometimes, that leads to some misunderstandings. They think they can make me do anything. No. If I said no, that means I can't accept, so please back off.

People can suggest ideas to me, and I will consider them. But the final decision will be mine. My life, my decision. Your life, your decision. 

Like Facebook, it's your decision what you publish, how you respond to others' comments, and so on. However, you can't control others' posts or their reactions. Whether you like it or not, you don't have to force your choice on others.

Tuesday, September 30, 2025

Biography 303: My Boro Khala (Aunt) - Cooking

My Boro Khala is a great cook. People really enjoy her homemade food very much. In our home, sometimes she cooked one or two dishes, and everybody liked them.

My older sister loved her Daal. She used to tell my mom, "You can't make delicious daal. I like the daal that Boro Khala made."

In our home, she was a guest, so whenever she went to the kitchen to make something, I always accompanied her to help. I had no idea about cooking, but I didn't want to leave her alone there. One day, she asked me to put oil in a pan, and I had no idea how much to add. I asked her, and she said, "Just add some." Not knowing better, I started pouring oil drop by drop and kept asking if that was enough. She came over, took the oil bottle from my hand, and poured about a cup into the pan. I knew I wasn't helping much, but I stayed with her until she finished her work in the kitchen.

I thought nobody noticed this. Then one day I heard my Boro Khala telling others, "Whenever I go to the kitchen, Shimul always come with me to help."

Monday, September 29, 2025

Security Services in Ontario


 I have some experience working as a concierge. It helped me develop my communication skills across different age groups and handle various incidents, as well as provide security services, including CC Camera observation and others.

No suggestion for anyone


 I used to offer advice on how to succeed in life or maintain a healthy lifestyle. At present, my financial and physical state prevent me from discussing these topics. I don't advise anyone to do anything that might lead to success or to eat certain foods for good health. 

Because my condition doesn't prove that I have sufficient knowledge about these matters. Sometimes, when I start saying something and then immediately stop myself, I realize I shouldn't suggest anything. What have I achieved that I could recommend to others? 

No suggestions for anyone.

Saturday, September 27, 2025

Biography 302: My Boro Khala (Aunt) - Rickshaw


 We used to go to the "Bangladesh Shishu Academy" twice a week. We mean four sisters. My mom used to take us to the academy. Later, my older sister was responsible for the rest of the three sisters. It wasn't near our house, so we had to go there in a rickshaw. It was about 30 30-minute journey.

In a rickshaw, it was challenging to accommodate five people on the passenger seat. Ideally, it is for two people. But we were kids, so somehow my mom managed it. She couldn't send the small kids to another rickshaw for safety purposes.

One day, our Boro Khala was with us. She came to stay at her sister's for a couple of days. She took the responsibility to take us to the Academy. I didn't know how we were going to manage. With mom, we can stand or sit wherever we want, but what will we do with Boro Khala?

Khala was always calm, and she always found a solution for any situation. She asked me to take a seat in the passenger area. How will the three of us sit? She said, 'It's ok, it will be tight, so there will be less chance of falling from the rickshaw.'

I liked the way she made things easy with her polite voice, and we managed to visit the Academy without any problem.