Tuesday, September 30, 2014

যার সাথে কথা বলে ভাল লাগে


শুনেছি, আমি ছোট বেলায় প্রচুর কথা বলতাম. কথা বলে বলে মানুষের মাথার পোকা নাড়িয়ে দিতাম. আমার মনে নেই. আমার যখন থেকে নিজের কথা মনে আছে, তখন থেকে আমি কথা খুব বলি. প্রয়োজনীয় কথাও সময় মতো বলিনা. চাকুরী করার সময় জোর করে এই আচরন থেকে বের হয়েছিলাম. এমন চুপ করে থাকলে কেউ কাজ দিবে না.

তবে এখনও, কোন কারন ছাড়া ঠিক কথা বলিনা.

তারপর কারো কারো সাথে কোন কারন ছাড়াই সারাক্ষন কথা বলতে ইচ্ছা করে. আমি জানি এভাবে কাউকে বিরক্ত করা ঠিক না. তাই খুব সাবধানে অল্প অল্প করে বলি. একবারে কথা বন্ধ হয়ে যাবার চেয়ে কম কথা বলা ভাল. আর ১০ মিনিটের মধ্যে শেষ করা আরো ভালো. কে জানে, আবার কখন মনোমালিন্য হয়ে যায়. সাবধানের মার নেই :)

যাদের সাথে কথা বলে শান্তি পাওয়া যায়, তাদের সাথে কথা বলা বন্ধ হলে খুব খারাপ লাগে.


I heard, in my childhood I use to talk a lot. People use to get irritate because of my talking. But I can't remember that situation. What I find about myself is I am a very shy person. Even I don't speak when needed.

I have changed my attitude during service time. No body is going to give job to a person who can't speak.

Still I don't speak unnecessary talks. So, actually I don't speak much. I am a good listener.

But sometimes I felt to talk with some people and continue talking for long time. And I know, I shouldn't disturb people this way, So, I don't speak much (no matter how much I like to talk unnecessarily). And try to stop conversation within a short time. I don't want lose them, I really misses our talking....

Friday, September 26, 2014

To learn riding bicycle, you should remove those training wheels first.


When I was a kid, we lived in Saudi Arabia. Just beside our house there was another child who was only 1 year junior than. Her name is Tina and obviously we became very good friend. Her parents once bought her a bicycle. I saw, and felt it's OK. I knew she had many toys which I didn't. But my parents thought I was upset so they buy another bicycle, same as her (didn't find other design). My mom told me, when you learn how to ride a bicycle, we will remove both safety wheels.

But the truth is, if those wheels remains, then no body learn riding a bicycle. So, I didn't know how to ride a bicycle, my elder sister's son Tameem also ride this same cycle and he didn't learn too. But my younger brother learned very quickly, because he removed those safety/training wheels.


My son also is riding the same bicycle. I asked him, should I remove those little wheels? He scared and said, NO.

Thursday, September 25, 2014

Take some dry food and water with you when you go to any office for any service


Whenever you go to any office for any service take some dry food and water. Because you never know how long they will keep you waiting. It could be 5 minutes to 15 hours. And you can’t go out always to take food from a Queue. This tip is really very helpful if you have any work in government office.


Yesterday I was standing in a Queue for 1 hour because of power fail. They left the desk because server was shut down. After one hour electricity came but the desk man left for lunch. He came back after half an hour (didn't take much time for lunch, I must say) and again left for toilet. Again I had to go to other desk and found that person left for lunch and he went to his house. After one hour of waiting someone suggest I could go to other desk instead of waiting.... I expended a long day without food and water. Didn't want to take any chance to lose any person who might come back anytime after their breaks.

Wednesday, September 24, 2014

আমি জানি সব কথা ধরতে নেই (we don't have to take all word seriously)


আমি কোন কিছু বললে সেটা অবশ্যই রাখার চেষ্টা করি. যথেস্ট চেষ্টা করি. যদি কখনো কাউকে বলি যে বিকালে পর্যটন মেলায় যাব. পরে যতই অনিচ্ছা হোক না কেন, ঠিকই যাই. তারপর ফোন দিয়ে দেখি আমার সেই বন্ধু আমাদের যাওয়ার ব্যাপারটায় কোন গুরুত্ব দেয়নি, সে অন্য কাজে ব্যস্ত. শেষ পর্যন্ত একা একাই পুরো মেলা ঘুরে দেখি.

কখনোও কখনোও কথায় কথায় হয়তো বলে ফেলি, আজ এই কাজটা করব. এরপর যত অসুবিধাই হোক না কেন, আমি কাজটা করি, যাকে বলেছি সে হয়তো জানেনও না, আমি কাজটা করলাম, না করলাম না. কিন্তু যেহেতু আমি বলেছি, আমি কথাটা রাখার চেষ্টা করি.

এজন্যই যখন অন্য কেউ যখন কিছু বলে, অতি বোকার মতো আমি সেটা বিশ্বাস করি.

কেউ যখন বলে "আই উইল নেভার লেট ইউ ডাউন", আমি বিশ্বাস করি. মনে করি যেন সে সত্যি আমার খেয়াল রাখবে. যখন ভুল ভাঙ্গে তখন মনে হয়, ও না এটা বলেছিল.

কেউ যখন বলে আমার জন্য সে জান দিয়ে দিবে. আমি বিশ্বাস করি. যদিও ১২ ঘন্টার মধ্যে হয়তো সে প্রমান করে দেয়, সে এমনি বলেছিল.

কেউ যখন জানায় সে আমাকে ভালবাসে, আমার মনে হয় সত্যি হয়তো তাই. যদিও সেটা হয়তো ২৪ ঘন্টার বেশি থাকে না.

আমি জানি, ভুলটা আমার. মানুষ এমনিতেই অনেক কথা বলে, এসব ধরতে নেই. ভুলটা আমারি.

তাই আমি যখন বলি, আমার নাম্বার বদলালে আমি জানাবো, তোমারটা বদলে ফেললেও আমাকে জানিও. আমি সত্যি সেটা করব, আমার আশা নিয়ে বসে থাকি সেও আমার ক্ষেত্রে সেটা করবে.

আমি জানি সব কথা ধরতে নেই. ছোট ছোট বিষয় তো সবাই এমনি বলে. এমন করে সব কথা ধরে বসে থাকতে নেই. সবাই তো আমার মতো সব কথা নিয়ে এতো সিরিয়াস নয়.

When I say anything, I try to keep that word. No matter how simple those words are. Like if I say to any of my friend, that we will go to the Parjatan fair this afternoon. Later no matter how bad I feel, I will go there and call my friend. Then I realize they didn't take that plan seriously. So, they are busy with other work. Finally I had to enjoy myself.

Sometimes people may say, "I will never let you down". I trust them. I believed they will always be with me and help me whenever I fall in trouble. But later I found, they don't care at all. It's not their fault. People say this way, generally, it's my fault that I believe peoples every word.

People may say they will die for me. Well within 12 hours they might change their mind. It's OK. Some says, they love me or trust me. Though, after 24 hours I found that actually they are not feeling that way.

I know, I shouldn't trust and expect that whatever people says are iron true. But my stupid mind always makes this mistake. That's why when I said, I will let you know if I change my number and please do same. I believed they will remember that. Though, I shouldn't expect that people will remember f my words and follow them. .

Tuesday, September 23, 2014

Story of a marriage life


I am talking about a working woman. She has 5 kids. Four of them get born while she was doing job. She was miscarriage one kid (because of work pressure). She left her job before second kid admitted in school. So, actually her kids don’t remember much how she managed her life. Here I must say, as she was a working woman she had to maintain her family financially, physically (by taking care of kid, cooking, cleaning etc) and mentally (support all and taking decisions). As she had to keep busy outside at day time other family members got lot of time to create problem in her life. The common situations were telling many negative things about her to her husband (as usual this effected her marriage life), not taking care of her kids properly (didn’t give proper food, no company etc), misbehave with her family members if they come to visit etc. She wished to get rid of these by changing her home or left the job but none of them was possible because of financial situation. Later she got chance to work outside from her country. After one year she manages to bring her family to her place. So, almost after 6 years she truly felt what a marriage life is. How a woman can live happy with husband, kids and work.

Monday, September 22, 2014

Goal


I had read and write several times on "My aim in life" in school. Though on those days, I really didn't have any goal. Even now I don't have. I made many short term goals in my life. Most of them didn't work. May be I didn't try or work them enough to make them happen. But I couldn't make any long term goal. How could I? I don't know what will come to me next. I am not too ambitious. I always wanted simple things in my life and got some of them. Sometimes I felt very happy after getting those, sometimes not. What is the goal of my life? Don't know.... may be just try to stay happy.

Sunday, September 21, 2014

যাকে ভালবাসো, তার সম্পর্কে বাজে শব্দ ব্যবহার করো না (You shouldn't use bad words for you loved one)


যাকে ভালোবাসো, তার সম্পর্কে খারাপ কথা কি করে বলো, রেগে গেলে যদি মাথা ঠিক না থাকে, যা খুশি বলতে পারে, যা খুশি করতে পারো, তাহলে আমি স্পস্ট করে বলব, আমি এই বর্বরতাকে পছন্দ করি না.

তোমাদের কাছে হয়তো এটাই ঠিক, আমার কাছে নয়.

How can you use so bad words on someone you love. In anger if you can say anything about them and do anything with them, then I must let you know, I don't like it.

May be it's OK with you guys, not with me.

Saturday, September 20, 2014

Friends


I don't have friend. I don't know how to make friends. I don't know how to keep friends. I don't know how friends come and stay in life. I never had friend. Yes, its true. When I was in university. I asked 2 girls to be my friend. I asked them to stick together always till we complete our master's exam. And we did. Allah knows how hard I always work to keep us together. After masters exam I stopped. Enough is enough. If they stay with me that's fine. If they don't, then I won't stop them. One left when I first get job. After long years another left because some one else said, I am not good. Fine. stay happy.
All can't be wrong. There must be something wrong in me. May be I am not good enough to be a friend. Well, I am not good in anything. Just get a life by Allah and expending it. As a human I have feelings. And I don't want to bother others for that. If anyone comes to me by themselves, I feel happy, I enjoy, try to make them happy too unless they left.

Friday, September 19, 2014

Some suggestion for a cook book or magazine


1. I like to see traditional recipe with new recipe, which is very helpful for new cook like me.

2. Good picture of decoration or presentation of the food.

3. Some easy to make recipe with tough one.

4. Occasion wise recipe.

5. Different section of food, like time wise (breakfast, lunch, snacks, school Tiffin etc)

6. Sometimes like recipe book (drinks, fish, rice etc)

7. Tips for both kitchen, cooking etc
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8. Diet chart for different age people

9. Sometimes different countries food recipe

10. Interview of chefs with a recipe

11.  as you already made a journey through Bangladesh for different area’s food which can be included here one after another.

12. Interior decoration of kitchen.

13. Tips for first aid for common kitchen injury, like burn, cut, scratch etc.

14.  Menu for different occasion small or big with recipe.


I think I have already made a big list, which are very common and everybody knows about these

Thursday, September 18, 2014

এ সময় একটু দুরত্ব থাকা ভাল (sometimes you should have little distance)


যতই বলিনা কেন, নিজের সুখ অন্যের কাঁধে রাখা ঠিক না. মন ঠিকই মনে মনে প্রিয় মানুষের জন্য অপেক্ষা করে. তার এতটুকু খবরের জন্য বসে থাকে. তার সাথে যতদুর সম্ভব থাকতে চায়.

নানা ভাবে মনকে প্রবোধ দিয়ে সামলানো হয়তো যায়. তারপর ও একটা শুন্যতা ঠিকই বোধ হয়...

আবার ও বলছি অন্যের জন্য নিজের সুখ শান্তি নস্ট করতে নেই. এতে নিজের এবং আপনার উপর যারা নির্ভর করছে তাদের ক্ষতি. অন্যের হয়তো কিছুই যায় আসে না.

থাকলাম না হয় শুন্যতা নিয়েই. বিশ্বাস আছে, ও আছে এবং থাকবে সব সময়. সাময়িক দুরত্ব, বিচলিত মন, মেজাজ খারাপ থাকতেই পারে. এ অবস্থায় দুরে থাকাই ভালো.

No matter how much I say, we shouldn't keep our happiness on other's shoulder. From our heart, secretly we always wait for our loved one. We wait for their every single news. We try to stay together as much possible.

Well we can make fool our heart by saying many good words, but we always miss them. 

Again I am saying and believe that we shouldn't destroy our happiness for others. This will kill you and the people who rely on you.


Sometimes we had to live with the missing feeling. Though we believe our love is there and will always be. There could be temporary distance for some reason (like distracted mind, hot head, bad mood) and these times people should keep some distance with others.