To see my son

We brought a cake to celebrate with all, by printing Shafeen's name

Deborah and Shafeen

Two accountant from somewhere in... (on those days)

Shafeen sleeping on m lap

From left Tameem (my elder sister's son, Yeameen (now living in US), Morshed and Lavlu bro

When my son born, few people from “somewherein…” came to visit us. On that time Shafeen was only 1 month and 4 days old. My brother brought a cake printed Shafeen’s name on it.

Typical breakfast of mine

Pach Porata (fried homemade bread), Pui shake and thankuni patarchochchory (basil leaf and Centella curry) and a mug of tea. I had collected this basil leaf and Centella from my mother’s garden. In these days, my mom's garden became my main source of vegetables. I added green chili in this curry which is also from my mom's garden.

Moon, from my veranda

Now a day in Dhaka everywhere high storage buildings are rising. It’s very difficult to view the sky from home. But still somehow the moon manage to show itself from my veranda.

You should give gift to yourself

Shafeen at a shopping center

In this world, you have so many works, so many tensions, and so many goals to fulfill. So, when you complete any task, for achieve any goal or became tension free, you should give yourself a gift or a small treat. This might cross your budget but very helpful for your mind.

In our life we want everything, but real life doesn’t give us all. Some are easily achievable, but we don’t go for it because it will cost or take time etc. So, we never get all what our heart desires. So, when you want to give gift to yourself, you can give what your heart wanted for long time. This could be a spa, world tour, shopping, eating, sleeping, taking rest, watching movie etc.

I have given such gift to myself once. I went to agora and shop whatever I feel I need, and didn’t look at how much it cost. Finally I pay taka13000 for all shopping, nothing much, right?

Shafeen when he was 20 days old

I don’t know when I can sleep well again

Shafeen likes to play game over cell phone, at bed time

When a baby comes in life, most of the mothers first face the sleeping problem. Then it depends on your child, when it will let you sleep at night.

Shafeen (my 3 years old son) made a lot of trouble when he was a new born baby. Then after one year things became fine. Now a day his sleeping time rotates. Sometimes he sleeps at night, then start sleeping in the morning then….. And I had to face problem with my regular life. I can’t sleep properly at night. So, can’t awake at Fazar prayer. Then whole day felt sleepy, again at night had to give time to him. I hope this rotation will change soon.

Shafeen and train

Shafeen playing with the red train

Shafeen watching another train while sitting inside a train

Shafeen watching his Tameem bro’s (my elder sister’s son) train

Shafeen loves train very much. He sat on a real train once, to go to Chittagong from Dhaka. We book a 3 sited AC cabin, and enjoyed the tour a lot. In the whole train he laid on the upper bath to enjoy the movement of the train.

Shafeen has some toys on train. But still he didn’t get the one he wants. So, he asked his uncle (paternal) to bring him a train. Let’s see when he gets that.

When you say, say well about the person

Generally what we do? We meet people, we discuss about others, and off course we say or give bad info about others. And people felt happy, when they say and hear something wrong about others. Why is this? Do you like to have same thing happen with you too? You will say, I didn’t do anything like that. Yes, maybe you didn’t but you must have done something else, and people can talk about that.

When I was in Dhaka University, as a student, I found a girl named Zeba, is totally different with this kind of attitude. I have seen she always says good things about people. I surprise, to see that, when anybody does anything good or just say any good comment to other. She tells this to other person. Those people get to know that someone is talking good about them. And they became good friends. Everywhere she was giving the positive energy.

I wanted to grab this good attitude, from then I have stopped saying any bad comments about others. No matter how true they are. I started hide others bad things and say only about good things. I don’t lie, but only those truths. It really makes me happy.

In tense

People do many things when they are in tense. Some start crying (no kidding), some keeps quite, some start s shouting and blaming others, some start thinking what to do next and takes positive steps. Here more troublesome are those who shout. They make their life miserable and by shouting and blaming other, they made other life in trouble. But they don’t come to any solution.

I always keep away from those people who shouts, show anger to other. I really can’t tolerate others temper. They really gave me headache. 

Shafeen becoming expert with cell phone

Why everything needs to come your way at a time?

I have seen this happens to me many times. When I got some work (as a freelancer) other works or situation will come at the same time. Like any relative’s marriage ceremony or Air Condition will need urgent repair. I have to do all in the same time. I have to forget about sleeping for couple of days…. Am still alive?

Caring son

Shafeen cares about his mother a lot. When we come out from a shopping center shafeen closes his mother’s eyes, because (he said) mom might face problem in sunlight. It might harm her.

I couldn’t depend to anyone, ever

I always wanted someone or some people, in my life, who might be very active in every work, who can give me good suggestion in every situation. But I never found anyone like that. Whoever comes near to me always depends on me. I had to take decision and action for every situation.

In my student life, corporate life or marriage life, everywhere I found same situation. If anyone falls in problem I tried my best help them, but if I am in trouble no one is there for me. Nobody care to help me out from difficult situation or kind enough to give me some good moment.

May be I have some personality which doesn’t make people to care for me. Fine, I have to find my own way, to live my life as much as I can. When I can’t I will accept that situation. I have to live with this.

Shafeen playing at “Salt Grill” food court, at Bashundhara city complex.

Here they keep a person to look after the child while playing, though its impossible to look lots of child at a time.

Glucophage

Metformin is an oral antibiotic drug from biguanide class. This is originally sold as Glucophage. This is used for diabetic type 2 (when people are not depending on insulin), overweighting (when it starts making harm to the health) etc and most important are, those people have to be problem free from kidney disease. This drug helps to reduce cholesterol.

Glucophage (Metformin) drug basically used for type 2 diabetic (when people are not in need of insulin). But it also used for polycystic ovary syndrome (female ovary glands disorder, this is very common), non alcoholic fatty liver disease etc. But here this drug needs some more experiment.

Glucophage reduces glucose in your body, which is made by your lever. It makes easier to glucose to go inside of your issues of your body. Glucophage found especially useful for those persons who are over weighted and have diabetics type 2.

Glucophage should not be prescribed before consulting with a doctor. You might have allergy on Glucophage, you may have problem in liver or kidney. So, you can’t just take it. And you should not stop taking medicine before consulting with your doctor.

If your doctor approved then it is recommended that adults should take Glucophage daily 3 to 4 times, 500mg. If you are taking Glucophage 850 mg, then you might take 2 or 3 times a day. One thing you should remember you can’t take more than 2550 mg daily. These tablets should be taken with food, whenever it possible to reduce the risk of vomiting and nausea. Glucophage can be use alone to reduce glucose or can be added with other drugs. And you should check your glucose lever at your blood in regular basis, to ensure that these drugs are working fine.

This is very important that you should take the Glucophage medicine regularly and timely. If you miss one dose then you should take it immediate and continue your regular schedule. And if you found that you are near at the next dose, then drop this dose and continue with your schedule. Glucophage is an oral antibiotic so you have to be careful about taking medicine. And most important part is, do not take double dose to make up your missing dose. And finally if you are not sure what to do about a missing dose, then please consult your doctor.

Shafeen loves vehicles

shafeen on the helicopter

Shafeen and me, he is getting down from the plane

Shafeen checking the engine

What more you want?

Dia and Shafeen cooking

I got to know about a girl. She is working in a good mobile operating company. She is living with husband and 2 kids. And now a day husband’s sister, brother, father (sometimes) and mother (occasionally). She spends all her money for her family and so that her husband can give his money to his parents and to raise his other siblings. He couldn’t save money for his own children future. His wife saves some but she had expended those in her husband’s sister marriage ceremony. Now what is the position of this wife to the family? Everybody love her for sacrificing everything to this family?

NO, no body from her in law side likes her. They want more. She kept 2 maids to work at home and take care of her children, while she works outside. Her husband’s family wants her to cook for them. They tell everyone they know that their sister in law isn’t good enough. She doesn’t cook for them! They don’t care whether she should live alive or not, no matter how hard she is working and expending money for them. They want more and more. They do different policies to make her cook. One day her father in law boiled some vegetables to eat, and then her brother in law asked to stop it, because it will reduce her work.

See, what a life of a woman in Bangladesh. And this condition is very natural in our social life. We don’t think that all are making a woman’s life miserable… We always encourage the groom’s family to be hard on their bride.

Shafeen at Bashundhara city complex

Shafeen in front of Bashundhara city.

Me and Shafeen in the lift

Me and Shafeen at Salt Grill

We attended Tareq’s marriage reception party at 2007

Mr. and Mrs Tareq

Me, Anika, Samiha, Deborah and Farhana

I talk or argue, only with them, who understands

I don’t quarrel, with anybody (I did a lot with my sisters, in childhood). Even not with my husband (yes, we had many conversation, where I strictly disagree about his opinion). I don’t like quarreling or shouting.

In many ways I disagree with many person. I only talk about it if the person is ready to listen what I am telling them. If I found this person is standing stick with their opinion and no matter what I say they will not going listen to me, I don’t say anything to them. Why should I? So, there are many people who say many things to me and never get a reply. Because, no matter what I say, they will do, whatever they decide. So, don’t need to talk with them or argue with them about anything.

If you are not ready to listen to me, I won’t argue with you. 

In a Gaye Hulud ceremony

Shafi

Me, at Shafi's Gaye Holud ceremony

Generally I attended on every ceremony or function, where people invited me. Because when I invite people and some don’t come I felt bad in my mind. So, I don’t want to give this pain to others. In these pictures I had joined one of my ex-colleague Shafi’s Gaye Holud ceremony. 

  

Eve teasing, one strong reason is movie

For eve teasing I believe one strong reason is movie. You don’t think so? Ok, fine, just pick one Bangladeshi movie (except the telefilms or films like that or art films) and notice what a hero does, before marry to the heroine. They disturbs them on the road, college, they pull their cloths, they push them to ground, some time do kiss them or hug them, they do all with their friends and finally we found actually he is a good person because he is the hero of the movie (Allah help me). Now, you can check the Indian movies too, in some of their movie you will find this too.

On this cell phone era, every boy have a cell phone and they watch movie clips (raping, hurting or just raging girls or boys) on it, from there they are also inspired to do the same thing for fun.

I believe movie makers should thing the total things in different way. They should show how to respect a woman and win her heart. Not to do stupid joking things, this is making her life miserable.

River cruise at Shitalakkha River

Walking inside Jamidar house

Going to the Jamidar house from River

On the river

Getting out from the boat

Sitting on the boat

Once upon a time, all right it was july03 2008 (don’t worry, I didn’t memorize the date, I found it from the pictures, where it mentioned the date), we went to a river cruise at Shitalakkha River. On the way we visit an old Jamidar house (landowner house, who were powerful almost like a king of that area), Jamdani shaare making area etc. From there we got to know that sometimes they took a year to make one single shaare. I liked most to stay on the small boat (for us it was a ship) and view the river and off course the food they supplied J