Our thought process

 When we hear something good about someone, the first thing that comes to mind is how they achieved it and why we can't. This is not good. Let's think about it in another way. Let's learn to be happy for others' achievements. That won't make us any less than others. It will make us happy and give us the opportunity to learn from others and grow.

Wanting someone and loving someone aren't the same.

 Wanting someone and loving someone aren't the same. When you want someone, you want them for yourself. You want to be physically and mentally benefited, to have kids with them, to have a good life because you expect they will help or provide that to you, etc. You don't consider what they might want, what their likes are, what their expectations are, or what will make them happy.

Let me give you an example. You may like or want chicken to eat. You will feed them properly and keep them in a good place so that one day you will eat them. You don't make a house for them to give them comfort or happiness, and you don't let them live the way they want to live, open and free to go anywhere they want. You may protect them from outside danger, but not for their sake; you do so for your own benefit.

Now think about what you think of your partner. Do you want them or do you love them? Be honest!

Biography 269 : Toys and animals

 Our brother was born after 4 sisters. Obviously we all love him. Especially our parents. My father always listened to him. Whatever he wanted, he bought it for him. For example, I tried to convince my dad to go on the Sylhet tour, but he kept denying until Sifat said, "Ok, I will go with you." Immediately Dad agreed to make the tour. Sifat wanted a computer, not for learning, only to play games, my dad knew it, but he bought it for him. Every time he (my brother) went out to the shopping mall, he bought a toy and marked another one. After reaching home, he started asking for the other one too. Let me tell you one incident. He bought something and saw a plastic fish in the shopping center. After reaching home, he started demanding it. My father said, You just have a toy. But he wasn't ready to accept any logic. Dad thought, let's take some time, he might forget. But Sifat didn't. He kept asking for that fish for one month. Dad bought that fish. Within a few seconds, it became old. He didn't touch that again.

One day, we went to a toy store where Sifat regularly buys toys. We were surprised that there were no new toys. Whatever they had, Sifat had already bought one copy of.

I am saying this just to make you understand how much we pampered him. He knew, everybody loves him. He likes animals. Then he figured it out, all animals love him. They all called by his name. How come? He imitated their call with his name and proved to us that they all called him. We didn't want to dishearten him. So, we all agree, yes, everything, like a sparrow, crows, cows, a dog, goats, etc, all call by his name.

One-sided love.

 I thought one-sided love only occurred with lovebirds, but now I see it happens pretty much everywhere. 

Parents give their favouritism to one child, but the other loves them more; they do everything for them, but parents always prioritize their favourite child.

In the office, someone works sincerely and efficiently. The management likes that, but the management likes another person who can gossip with them, drink with them, be talkative, etc. That favourite person doesn't like management or the company; they just behave like that to achieve rewards from the management, and they succeed. Nobody cares, actually who is making their company bright.

In friendships and in a group, sometimes you will see that you like someone and do whatever you can, but that person still likes to enjoy time with others. 

It's the choice of hearts. No one can complain about it. It doesn't work logically.

Song: Someone You Loved

 From Lewis Capaldi 

His website: https://www.lewiscapaldi.com/

Lyrics:

I’m going under and this time I fear there’s no one to save me

This all or nothing really got a way of driving me crazy

I need somebody to heal

somebody to know

somebody to have

somebody to hold

It’s easy to say

but it’s never the same

I guess I kinda liked the way you numbed all the pain

Now the day bleeds, into nightfall

and you’re not here, to get me through it all

I let my guard down and then you pulled the rug

I was getting kinda used to being someone you loved

I’m going under and this time I fear there’s no one to turn to

This all or nothing way of loving got me sleeping without you

Now I need somebody to know 

somebody to heal 

somebody to have 

just to know how it feels

It’s easy to say

but it’s never the same

I guess I kinda liked the way you helped me escape

Now the day bleeds, into nightfall 

and you’re not here, to get me through it all

I let my guard down and then you pulled the rug

I was getting kinda used to being someone you loved

And I tend to close my eyes when it hurts sometimes

I fall into your arms 

I'll be safe in your sound til I come back around

For now the day bleeds, into nightfall 

and you’re not here, to get me through it all

I let my guard down and then you pulled the rug

I was getting kinda used to being someone you loved

But now the day bleeds, into nightfall 

and you’re not here, to get me through it all

I let my guard down and then you pulled the rug

I was getting kinda used to being someone you loved

I let my guard down and then you pulled the rug

I was getting kinda used to being someone you loved

Amazing melody

 You must have heard this song million times. I didn't understand the lyrics, but the melody was heart-touching.

Every individual deserves this privacy

If anyone ever liked me, maybe only for some moments. They earned lifetime respect from me. I honour them. Theses feelings are priceless.

 

When any person directly or indirectly expressed their feeling to me, I had never disclosed it to any other person. None of my best friends, mom or sisters know about them. I believe every person deserves this privacy.

 

You have every right, not to love any person. But you have no right to make a joke about their feelings.

All can’t stay together

No matter how much we expect or needed for getting together and then staying together, is very difficult. People will always have different points of view, different choices, different mood, and different expectations. So, after all hard work, you may bring them together, but they can’t stay together unless they really want to be. When people want to stay together they forgive each other’s mistakes, forget each other’s negative works, and accept all negative things in them. Only love has power to tolerate all these without any pain. It could be love between brothers, sisters, spouses, friends, love birds etc. Except love when people have to accept everything only because of social propaganda or career or money or to achieve something, things became really tough. Sometimes man has no choice but accept all negative things to archive their goal or promise.

দুরত্ব মেনে নেয়া যায়, অবহেলা মানা যায়না.... (We can accept distance, can't tolerate ignorance...)

যদি এমন হয়, কখনো মনে হয়, যেন আছে সে,  বাতাসে অক্সিজেনের মতো. যতক্ষন অক্সিজেন থাকে, ততক্ষন প্রতিটি মুহূর্ত ভালো ভাবে কাটে. সব কাজে উত্সাহ পাওয়া যায়. আর না থাকলে সব অচল. নিঃশ্বাস নেয়া কঠিন হয়ে পড়ে.

ভারী অদ্ভুত, কে না কে, তার জন্য শ্বাস নেয়া বন্ধ. তার আপনাকে ভাল লাগছে না লাগছে তার নাই ঠিক, আর আপনি কিছুই ভাবতে পারছেন না তাকে ছাড়া. ভারী অদ্ভুত, মন মানুষকে কি অদ্ভুত ভাবেই না বদলে দেয়. জীবন্ত মানুষকে অন্যের (অবহেলার) কারনে মৃত বানিয়ে ছাড়ে...

দুরত্ব মেনে নেয়া যায়, অবহেলা মানা যায়না....

Sometimes you will feel some people are like oxygen. If your oxygen stays you can breathe well, can laugh, and can enjoy your life. If any how that misses, your life can't go well, even you can't breathe well.

Very strange, who the hell are they, who change your life, this way? Sometimes you may found they even don't think about you. Really very strange, how our mind make us feel dead just because someone don't care about us.

We can accept distance, can't tolerate ignorance...

Need peace in mind

 Ixora (Rongon) Flower tree

No matter what you want to do, first you need peace in mind. Then you will enjoy your work and other things. and you job will be done perfectly. But you know, the world isn't the bed of roses. You have to face many difficulties, mental stresses. In this condition, it’s really difficult to calm down and give peace in mind.

To have this mental refreshment, people do meditation; keep themselves busy with hobbies (traveling, fishing, reading etc) and love. Yes, the best way to make you happy and enjoy your life is love. Sometimes we don’t care or take care about it. People only understood its value when they lose it.

To get happiness in mind

Shafeen liked this uncle(paternal) so much that he didn't go to another chair.

We always want love from others. Other’s love makes us happy. That means our happiness depends on other’s attitude. If they don’t love us or hurt us, we will be unhappy. Can we come out from this situation? I don’t know.

But one thing we can do, we can love other people, the people around us or staying far away. If we love other, without any expectation (well, it’s difficult). This will give peace in mind, another kind of happiness. For this we don’t need to cry for other’s mercy.