If you are gone, no one will be there for your kid

Many times you will see people who have wealth with a big heart. They help everybody as much as they can. Do you know what happens with their kids when they die? 

People who used to talk very politely will suddenly become harsh. People who used to feed them with a smile will suddenly stop feeding them. Nobody will like those kids or be willing to give them their time.

No matter how much you do for others, when you will die nobody will be there for your kid. 

The same thing happens with you, too, when you lose money and fall into trouble. Never expect people to remember your good work during your bad times or when you're financially strapped.

Be prepared, when you are gone, no one will be there for your kid, except Allah.

এ বছরের ইফতার (Iftar in this year)

আমাদের মধ্যে একটা রীতি চালু হয়ে গিয়েছে. প্রত্যেক রমজানে আমরা একদিন মা আর সব ভাইবোনকে পরিবারসহ দাওয়াত করে ইফতারি খাওয়াই. মনে নেই কে এটা প্রথম চালু করেছিল.

আমি সব সময়ই নিজে রেসিপি দেখে যা পারি রান্না করে খাওয়াই. বাইরে থেকে কিনে খাওয়াতে চাইনা. এমনিতেও এদেশে বাইরের খাবারের মান নিয়ে প্রশ্ন আছে. তাই সবার মনে একটা আগ্রহ থাকে, এবার কি রান্না করবে.

এবারও আমার বড় বোন জিজ্ঞেস করলো, কি করছ ইফতারিতে? আমি জানালাম, এবার রান্না করার বা কিছু করার একদম ইনার্জি পাচ্ছিনা. তাই কিনে খাওয়াব. সবাই হয়তো ভাবা শুরু করে দিয়েছিল, না জানি কি খাওয়াবে (হয়তো ভাজা পোড়া কিছু আশা করেছিল).

যাই হোক আমি মেনুতে রেখেছিলাম, প্রথমে নানা রকম ফল (খেজুর, আপেল, তরমুজ, আম, লটকন, পেয়ারা, জাম্বুরা). কাঠাল আর আনারস মেনু থেকে বাদ দিতে হয়েছিল. কারন কাঠাল নস্ট হয়ে গিয়েছিল, আর আনারস কাটার সময় পাইনি.

ফলের সাথে দিয়েছিলাম সরবত (লেমন ফ্লেভার্ড) আর খাসির হালিম.

এরপর চাইনিজ খাবার. মেনু ফ্রাইড রাইস, ফ্রাইড চিকেন, মিক্সড ভেজেটেবল, শসা আর টমেটো. সাথে পেপসি (২৫০ এম এল). অর্ডার দিয়ে সেট মেনু সাজিয়ে নিয়েছিলাম.

আমি আমার সাধ্যমত ভালভাবে করার চেষ্টা করেছি. জানিনাহ সবাই খুশি হয়েছে কিনা.

We made a kind of tradition, that every Ramadan, we will invite our mother and all siblings with family to join at Iftar. Don’t remember who started this tradition.

I always try to make something by myself at home by following recipe. I don't like to bring food from outside. In our country there is always a big question on outside food on its quality. So, generally everyone had curiosity that what I will cook this time.

This year also, my elder sister asked me, what will you cook in the Iftar? I replied, I am feeling very tired and exhausted now a day. I can't cook, So, I will bring food from outside.  May be all start thinking I will bring all fried things in Iftar.

Well, my Iftar menu was little different. First I gave fruits (date, apple, water melon, Burmese grapes, guava, and great fruit). I had to remove jack fruit and pine apple from the menu, because jackfruit wasn’t in good condition and I couldn't make time to cut the pine apple.

With the fruits, I served Sarbat (lemon flavored drinks) and Halim (with mutton).

Then second course was Chinese food. I ordered a set menu with fried rice, fried chicken, mixed vegetable, cucumber and tomato with Pepsi (250 ml bottle).

I tried to make a good Iftar for everybody. I hope everyone liked the food.

Watching blue water

Bay of Bangle, from a ship.

Sometimes, when you see the blue water from a ship, you can feel the very deepness of the sea. But you can’t really imagine how deep it could be. May be, it can deep down 2 or 3 Mount Everest. You may feel to jump in it and enjoy the deep water. Well, it will be enjoyable, till you have enough oxygen with you… Otherwise this beauty will kill you.

New place for better life...

Everyone wants a better place to live. Some give emphasis on where they can live with their relatives, some on better life style, some on better weather, some on better income, better food... all wants something better. Some don't care where they are. They just expend their life wherever they born. Some wish to have better life, but couldn't find a path to go out.

No matter what issues we have, we want something better. Some people wishes for better life, but actually they don't do anything, or anything strongly. Only wishing isn't a solution. We have to act hard. Though we don't know whether we are taking the right choice or not.

Many people go abroad, or go to town to change their luck. But many of them lost all and had to come back to the previous place. And they found, actually they had some opportunity at previous place, outside world is more difficult live.

Some don't care, where they came, they just stick there and do hard work to change their life. And they truth is, these are the successful people. Who can fix their luck.

কাছে আসতে হবে না. (you don't have to come)

যদি ভালো না লাগে,
কাছে আসতে ইচ্ছে না করে
কাছে আসতে হবে না.

কখনো যদি মিস করো
যদি কাছে আসতে ইচ্ছে করে
যদি ভালবাসো
যদি আমার কাছে তোমার ভাল লাগে
তবেই শুধু এসো

তোমার না ভালবাসা, বিরক্ত চোখ
আমি দেখতে চাইনা.
আমি তোমার চোখে শুধু ভালবাসা দেখতে চাই
শুধুই ভালবাসা

(যদিও মন প্রাণ একটা কথাই ব্যাকুল হলে বলছে
যেওনা  যেওনা )

If you don't like me,
if you don't feel to come closer to me,
You don't have to.

When you miss me
if you feel to come closer tome
if you love me
if you like my company
then only come to me

I don't like to see your eye without love
with disappointment
I only wish to see love in your eyes
only love

(though my mind and heart saying, please don't go
please don't go)

Passion

Shafeen was feeling very sleepy, still couldn't stop playing. He was 3 years and 10 months old

Passion is something that will drive you away, wherever you want to go. It won’t see, whether it is bad or good. It won’t stop until you succeed. And then it will take you farther… So, if you have passion about anything (not harmful to others), go with it. Win the world. You will be benefited and your world too…

This is why woman don’t want to let her son go

If I had little cough, my son (5 years old) run and bring me water. If I had headache, he sits beside me and put his hand on my head, to heal me. If I say, I am not feeling good, he stays beside me or play beside me to make me feel better. Whatever he eats, give me some to taste. He said, when he grow up, he won't work, but will do all work of me... may be because of these no woman likes her daughter in law. Because, after marry, his son's main love and focus goes to his wife. This should be. And a mother can't tolerate this. Because except her son, no one really take care of her, or give emphasis on her. So, she tries heart and soul to keep her son with her, and make the daughter in law look enemy to her son, because she has nowhere to go, except her son.

This thing should be change... woman should love her son, not rely her life on him. She should let him go and enjoy his own life. Woman should remember, he is her son, not part of body. He has his own life, like she should have. Love shouldn't kill other's life, it should let grow others too. If she really could make her son love her, he will always love his mom. Otherwise, mom should live her own life, without relying anyone else. Old home isn't a prisoner. It's a place where same age people can live together and enjoy their life in their own way... why should we bother others...

একাই নিজের জগতে (Sometime of her own)

প্রকৃতিগত ভাবেই প্রতি মাসে মেয়েদের একটা নিজস্ব জগত তৈরী হয়. এই সময় তাকে একাই নিজের জগতে ডুব মেরে থাকতে দেয়াই ভালো. সবাই চায় মেয়েরা যেন তার জন্য আলাদা সময় বের করে, এই করতে গিয়ে তাদের নিজের জন্য আর কোনো সময় থাকেনা. তাই কয়েকদিনের জন্য হলেও  তাকে তার মতো থাকতে দেয়া উচিত.

By nature women got some different days in a month. We should let her live in her own way this time. All wants her time everyday, because of this she cant make any time of her own. So we should give at least few days to enjoy in her own way.

This way or that way

In life, there is always a saying, “this way or that way”. That means you have to fulfill your goal. First you may go to the straightway, if fail, or if you found the path is close, you have to find other way (off course not any wrong way).

When Shafeen (my son) got fever, I strictly said to him, “you can’t play on the floor”, because, cold floor may cause more damage on him. So, my son had to find his other way. He brought up all his favorite things (including his favorite chair) on the bed. I can’t see the condition of bed after that… but he got his good solution.

If that person give me a smile, my heart sank

We all like good behavior at every place, not only in customer service. In any workplace, hospital, transport or any organization you will find some people to help you. Well nothing is free. Their charge (salary) is already included with the total cost. They should give you good behave, smile or help without asking.

But things are not that easy in Bangladesh. When someone is working for me, and that person give me a smile, my heart sank. I understand very well, that after the task, this person is going to ask money (bokshish). And I am bound to give that (not officially).

Even any person start talking with me (not related with work), I understand this person is trying to make good impression on me to ask money. And I was always right.

Few days back, one rickshaw puller started gossiping with me on the road, about the weather, his kid etc. And as suspected, that guy took double fair from me. Almost by force, in front of my house he was shouting.

From hospital when I was preparing to go home (after giving birth of my son) one nurse started taking very good care of me. I knew I have to give more money to her than other. I did. But she wasn't happy with that. So again I had to make it triple (from others) then she leave me (or let me go).