Kids like cartoon characters

Shafeen (my 5 years old son) forgot to shake his hand with this mascot, so he is going back to them....

Kids like cartoon characters. No doubt. That's why where ever say see any picture of cartoon, they just love it. Same goes for mascots too. They like those schools where they can see cartoon characters stickers on the wall. They like those toys most, which are made from cartoon characters. Even they like those restaurant where you see a mascot or human wearing cartoon characters dress.

Our media should also give news about good effort

All people don't have same capability of work. But we should all give good effort to do something good which helps the world. We have no idea how a tiny good work can influence the world for good.

I always support good work. We should always encourage people for all kind of good work. I believe our media shouldn't always give news only about killing, war, fighting etc. Our media should also give news about good effort, new creation, good work etc, which will encourage other people to do so...

তাই আজ আর কিছু বলব না... (I won't say anything today)

যা বলতে চাই, তা বলা সম্ভব নয়. আর যা বলা সম্ভব তা বলতে ইচ্ছা করছে না. তাই আজ আর কিছু বলব না...

সরাসরি কথা বলা একদিন থেকে ভাল. ভাল হোক আর মন্দ একটা রেজাল্ট চলে আসে. সব কিছু ঝুলে থাকে না....

What I want to say, can't say. What I can say, don't want to say...

You know what, it's good to talk directly. Good or bad you will see a result, it won't hang for ever....

Colorful sky

If you look at the sky, you will never feel bore. It changes every time. It has different beauty on different time. Morning you will see the freshness, at noon the hit, at afternoon fun, at sunset you will see romantic beautiful colors. And you want to know how will it look like at night? Depend on clouds, moon and the start…. It’s the night mood. It’s totally my opinion. When you start watching the sky, you may find something else…

we have to think little farther

Many people say, why all UFO comes on US or North America? Why strange things only happens in western world.

I think we have to think little farther. Other parts of world are not as developed as western part. So, in most cases people don't have anything to take video or even take a picture. And if it happens in front of illiterate people, they take it as a ghost or other thing. So, we can't think good result or sample of any strange situation.

মায়েদের অসুস্থ হবার উপায়ও নেই (A mother can never be sick)

মায়েদের অসুস্থ হতে নেই. হবার উপায়ও নেই. জ্বরে কাতর হয়ে একদিন শুয়ে বিশ্রাম নিয়েছি. সকাল থেকে দুপুর পর্যন্ত শাফিন নানু বাড়িতেই ছিল, বড়আপা ওকে খাইয়ে দিয়েছিল. তারপরও ছেলের জ্বর চলে এসেছে. কালকে সারা গায়ে ব্যাথা নিয়েই ছেলেকে খাওয়ালাম, স্পঞ্জ করলাম... ছেলে এখন অনেকটা ভাল হয়ে গিয়েছে. বুঝলাম, শরীর যতি বিদ্রোহ করুক, আমার মুক্তি নেই. কাজ চালিয়ে যেতে হবে.

A mother can never be sick. Actually she doesn't have choice.
After getting fever I took one day bed rest. Shafeen (my son) stayed at his grandmother's (maternal) house from morning to noon. My elder sister fed him. But still my son got fever 101. So, with the pain, all over the body I stand up and start taking care of him (feed him, sponge his body etc), and he became well. So no matter how you became sick... you have to keep going (after becoming a mother)

Why Bangladeshi people support Brazil football team?

Shafeen

First, I must ensure you that I am not a Brazil supporter. I really don’t understand why so many Bangladeshi people support Brazil football team. There is no relation with Brazilian football with Bangladesh. Then what could be the reason?

I have asked this question to my cousin brother. He supports Brazil. I asked him, why do you support Brazil? What makes you like them so much?

He replied, in our school text book there was (I don’t whether it is there or not now) an article on Pele, the magician of football. So, from childhood people start liking Brazil football.

Now, if you ask me why don’t I like Brazil? Answer is I hate Brazil supporter’s attitude. Because of their activity, somehow anti-brazil feeling created in me…

Anyway I didn’t have problem for putting sticker of Brazil flag on my son’s hand, because he got it free from a chocolate. J

Sometimes the best way is to keep silent

When you are surrounded by people and they are discussing about a subject that you totally disagree, but you can’t say anything to them. First it’s difficult to raise a voice among lots of people. Second, they won’t agree with you. Third, if they stop temporary, (because with logic they can’t debate with you) they will speak behind you. If they can’t stop you with logic, they will attack you with your personal issues. Finally they will create negative issues on you and everyone will start hate you. So, what’s the point, if I can’t make them understand? So, I better keep silent…

এরপর কি? (What’s next?)

এরপর কি? সবচেয়ে সহজ প্রশ্ন আর সহজ উত্তর, অথচ বাস্তবে উত্তরটির মতো জীবন যাপন করা খুবই কঠিন. একটু ব্যাখা করি...

প্রথিবীর সবচেয়ে সুন্দর জায়গায় ঘোরা হয়ে গিয়েছে, এরপর কি? সবচেয়ে দামী রেস্তরার স্বাদ নেয়া হয়ে গিয়েছে, এরপর কি? সবচেয়ে দামী গাড়িতেও চড়া হয়ে গিয়েছে? তারপর? বাকি রইলো কি?

বাকি রইল সুখ আর ভালবাসা. যেখানেই যে অবস্হাতেই থাকুন না কেন, সুখে থাকার চেষ্টা করুন. দেখুন কাজটা কত কঠিন. তারপরও ছোট ছোট সুখ আনন্দ গুলো তুলে নিন. অন্যকেও সুখী করার চেষ্টা করুন. আপনি ভাল থাকবেন (কথাগুলো আমার নিজের জন্যও প্রযোজ্য).

What’s next? The easiest question and also then you can have an easy answer. But the difficulty is in the following the answer. Let me explain a bit

The most beautiful place on earth, you have visited, the most known restaurant on this world, you have tasted their food. The most valuable car on this planet, you had a ride with it too. Then, what’s next?

Next is love and happiness. You have to find in your daily life, in small work and incidents you have to create it and enjoy it. No matter where or how you live, try to find happiness in every work and situation, try to give love to others and help them to be happy. You will find happiness inside you too (these words are for me too).

Train traffic system

Everybody has their dream project or planning. Especially when we stuck in traffic jam there many solution comes in our mind. If we made this road then it will be reduced, underground railway is the only solution etc.  We never thought our kids have their own plan too.

I bought this train set for him. After getting this toy, my son created his own way of traffic system, in the above picture. I like his plan for this city J

How important parent’s love are

I was watching a TV program, where an 18 years old boy was working in a gold mining section. But due to camera and other negative or unsuccessful things (not getting enough gold) made him rude and scared. He started misbehave with everyone. He wanted stop his work. He couldn’t concentrate or work properly. Things were getting worse day by day. Others started thinking, this is becoming impossible to continue work here…

The director of that TV program asked for help. Then, without notifying that boy his parents arrived. He loved to see them and for the first time he started laughing. He showed his equipments and big vehicle to his parents. They tried to run those and enjoyed his work. And when he became relax, his parent told him to focus on the positive side of every work. Negative things will always be there, he had to focus on the positive ones.

Then they left. But situation changed dramatically. The boy starts laughing and make very good friendly attitude to all. They started work and the boy found big amount of gold.

The total successful things happen only by small love of the parent.

রোমান্টিক গান (romantic songs)

রোমান্টিক গান গুলোর কথা খুব সুন্দর হয়. বিশেষ করে নিজের জীবনের সাথে সামান্য মিললেও খুব ভাল লাগে. এতো সুন্দর করে ভালবাসে, এতো সুন্দর করে সব কথা বলে.

আজ টিভিতে হঠাত একটা লাইন শুনলাম,
"মেরে পেয়ার মে
যাব তুম
খুয়ে খুয়ে সে রেহ তে হো
আচ্ছে লাগতে হো"

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2svmgeTgqbU

আসলেই ভাল লাগে.

I like romantic songs, especially their lyrics. They use very nice, soft and beautiful words. And if they match with your life any how you will feel great. How they made such lyrics? Like,

"Mere Pyar Me 

Jab Tum 

Khoye Khoye Se Rehte Ho,

Achche Lagte Ho"

https://youtu.be/HJIRktKAahU

If I try to translate this, it may sound like this..

"When you stay destructed in my love...

I like that"

Really I love that...

Unique style of playing

Every kid has some different and unique style of playing. Sometimes parent are the only person who can see and remember those. Even kids forget that style.

Shafeen use to play like this (shown in the picture). Now he forgets about it. But mom remembers this with this picture.

Interview

When you are taking any interview you can behave in two ways. One, you make the applicant feel, that you are nothing, we are showing mercy by taking your interview, you will be a lucky person if you get the job.

Well the applicant is helpless. They came here to get a job. So, they will accept every situation you create. They will scare to answer every question, because they won't understand which will make you disappoint. 

Number two (my favorite), you will make the applicant feel that you and your company are honored by getting a person like that applicant. Then the applicant will feel good, soon they will start thinking like they are the part of the family of that company, they will answer everything with pleasure, you will see their happy face and feeling in your interview board, you can see what really they know and don't know.

Choice is yours, which way you will follow...

আশা করে (A hope)

বঙ্কিম এর একটি উপন্যাসে পড়েছিলাম, এক যুবক, নৌকার আরোহীদের জন্য বনে গিয়েছিল কাঠ আনতে. দেরী হওয়ায় নৌকার লোকজন তাকে বনে ফেলেই চলে যায়.

পড়ে আমার সত্যি মনে হয়ছিলাম, পরের জন্য এভাবে যাবনা. তবে বঙ্কিম এটাও লিখেছিলেন, পরের জন্য এভাবে যার যাওয়ার স্বভাব সে সব সময়ই এভাবে সাহায্য করতে যাবে.

তখন ভেবেছিলাম. এও কি সম্ভব? এখন মনে হচ্ছে হ্যা, এমনি হয়ে থাকে. যে বার বার ধোকা খায়, সে ধোকা খেতেই থাকে. তারপরও মনে মনে আশা করে, এবারের জন ধোকাবাজ হবে না....

In Bankim's writing, once I read, a young man went to the deep forest to help the people in a boat. But as he was late, people from the boat didn't wait for him. They just left him in the forest.

When I read the novel, first I thought I will never go like this for other people. But then I found the writer wrote those people who have intention to help will go this way again and again, no matter how poor behave others do with them.

I thought, is it possible? Now I understand, yes, this is always happens. People who always betrayed by others thought this time people will not be that bad... they keep hoping...

Wallpaper by Shafeen

I like to change my desktop wallpaper frequently. Previously I use to download free wall papers. Then I started set wall paper of those pictures which I recently used is Facebook or blog. My son didn't like that. So, he started drawing pictures for my desktop. No matter how they are I had to keep them. Allah helped me, now he doesn't dislike my wallpapers, and let me keep our pictures as wall paper.

Distance

In this technological era, we have earned major development in communication. Now you can communicate with anybody around the world, if you have internet. We can share pictures, videos of what’s going on, within a minute with other places on Earth. So, we don’t have any distance right not. Is it?

Well, if any one wants, they can stop all communication any time. Then no matter how much you want, you can’t go physically and stand in front of them and ask, what happen? You just can’t break the distance... 

সবাইকে সব পোশাকে মানায় না (Every kind of dress doesn't suit everybody)

সবাইকে সব পোশাকে মানায় না. পরে যতই আরাম লাগুক না কেন, দেখতে ভালো না লাগলে বাইরে সেই পোশাক পরা যায়না. যেমন কাউকে কাউকে দেখছি, সুটেড বুটেড বা জ্যাকেটে খুব ভাল লাগে, কিন্তু টি -শার্ট এ ঠিক ভাল লাগে না. সেক্ষেত্রে টি -শার্ট পরে যতই আরাম লাগুক না কেন, বাইরে না পরাই ভাল. ঘরে মন ভরে পরে নিলেই হলো.

এদিকে আমাকে এখন আর কোন কিছুতেই ভাল লাগে না. বেশি মোটা হওয়ার কুফল. ফিগার ঠিক থাকলে সব কিছুতেই মানায়. এটা মোটামুটি সবার ক্ষেত্রেই প্রযোজ্য.


Every kind of dress doesn't suit everybody. No matter how comfort you feel, you can't wear dresses and go out side, which doesn't look good on you. I have seen some people who looks pretty good with suit and jackets, but t-shirt. So, no matter how comfortable this dress is that person shouldn't wear it outside. He can wear at home as much as he wanted.

In my case, nothing looks good on me. Too much fat always disturbing. So, to make look good, I have to reduce my weight. It works for everybody.

Shafeen doesn't like, when floor moves

My son likes this Ship from Capricorn restaurant, at Bashundhara City Complex (shopping mall). Whenever he get chance, he ride it and doesn't let other boy to ride. But he never let me put coins in it. He doesn't want to move the ship like pendulum.

Several times I try to make him understand, nothing to afraid, but he didn't listen to me. Generally he doesn't afraid of anything... but if floor moves... he doesn't want that. Something happens with him. I wish I know, how to get rid of this afraid.

But still, I wish...

Whenever I see or hear that anyone has gone anywhere, in my heart I say, I wish we could go with them too. When they return, in my mind I say again, did you bring anything for us.

Well, when I go out I can't take everyone (who might be interested to go) with us and I also couldn't bring gift for everyone.

But still, I wish...

একটা ডাক নাম দিয়েছে, "ঘুমপাড়ানি মাসি পিসি" (A nick name given "ghum parani masi pisi" or "aunt of sleeping")

আমার বোনেরা আমার একটা ডাক নাম দিয়েছে, "ঘুমপাড়ানি মাসি পিসি". কারন ছোট বাচ্চাদের কোলে রাখতে, কান্না থামাতে আমার জুড়ি নেই. আমি ছোট বাচ্চা খুবই পছন্দ করি. কোলে নিয়ে আদর করি. ওরা আরামে ঘুমিয়ে পরে. অনেকে ঠাট্টা করে বলে, গায়ে ফোম লাগানো অনেক, তাই বাচ্চারা পছন্দ করে. কারন যাই হোক, বাচ্চারা আমাকে পছন্দ করে এটাই আমার বেশি ভাল লাগে.

কিন্তু আমি সম্পুর্ন ভাবে ব্যর্থ আমার নিজের ছেলের কাছে. ও যখনি বুঝতে পারে ঘুম চলে এসেছে তারাতারি বলে, আমি খাবো, লাফ দিয়ে দাড়িয়ে যায় যাতে ঘুমাতে না হয়, চোখ বড় বড় করে খুলে রাখে. খেলা শুরু করে দেয়. লাফালাফি করতে থাকে, কিন্তু ঘুমায় না.

ও না ঘুমালেও অসুবিধা ছিলোনা, যখন মন চায় ঘুমাবে, কিন্তু যতক্ষন জেগে থাকে আমাকেও (কাউকেও) ঘুমাতে দেয়না. তাই পরিস্হিতি মোকাবেলায় ওর ব্যবস্থাই মেনে নিয়েছি. ও যখন ঘুমায়, আমিও ঘুমিয়ে নিতে চেষ্টা করি. ফলাফল হলো, এখন সারা রাত জাগি আর দিনে ঘুমাই.

সারাদিন ঘুমালে ওর চলে, আমার তো চলে না. বুয়া আসে, ময়লা নিতে আসে, বাইরে কেনা কাটা, ব্যাংক ইত্যাদি নানা কাজ থাকে. এসব তো আর সারা রাত ধরে খোলা থাকে না. তাই এটা  নিয়েও খানিকটা অসুবিধায় আছি. দেখা যাক. এরও একটা সমাধান বের করতে হবে.

My sisters given me nick name, "ghum parani masi pisi" or "aunt of sleeping”, because, I am very good in keeping small kids. I like kids very much. When I take them in my lap, they calm down and fall in sleep. Many say, I have extra foam in my body so kids like that.  Well, no matter what's the cause, kid’s like me and I love that feeling.

But I am totally failed with my own son. Whenever he feels sleepy, he says, mom, I am hungry ( he knows mom can't ignore this request), he jumps up, keep his eyes open as big as possible, start playing, jumping but sleeping.

Well I have no problem if he doesn't sleep. I believe he will sleep in his own time (when he can't wake up anymore). But problem is he doesn’t let me sleep too. So, I had adjusted my sleeping with him. Whenever he falls in sleep, I try to sleep with him too.

But it’s not easy for me. I had to open door several times. I have work with others, shopping, bank everything has their working time. They won't keep open at night. Well I have to make another plan to manage all these too, soon.

Waiting

My mom and my son waiting for food in a marriage ceremony

Waiting for anything is really tough. But we don’t have choice. My son faces big trouble when he had to wait for new toy, outing etc. Somehow he manages these problems. But he can’t wait for food. If anyhow he thinks that he is hungry, food has to be served in short time. This is not possible always.

When we join any celebration, we had to wait for food. It’s up to them, when they will serve us food. But it’s very difficult for my son. He started asking why they are delaying, why this delay. I couldn't find any way to stop him. Others will think, he is hungry and will eat a lot. But this is only for waiting, he can’t wait for food. When food arrives, sometimes within a minute he says, I am full, no more food.

No right works when money speaks

In good time everybody or every organization will say, they are good. They do this thing or that. In trouble, you will see the true color of every one. Then you will know, who does what, who really take actions, who protests and who helps whom.

Money has very big power on human and organizations (country, groups, factory etc). When money matters then other thing just gone away. You will see no human right or other things when money speaks.

This is the real world. If you still didn't face it, you will see it. Human or organization can't hide their greed for long time.