Celebrating New Year

No matter how sad we are with our past and present. No matter how blank our future is looking. But still we are celebrating (may be by doing nothing or just watching TV or checking FB status) and giving a warm welcome to 2015. World is celebrating one day together... in their own time. Happy New Year human, lets always care humanity...

Happy new year 2015

I was thinking how was my 2014... Well this was the year of waiting.. which is going to continue to 2015. I don't know whether my waiting will give me a good result or not. But I hope and trust, it will give me very pleasant result. And I am doing nothing to achieve anything... just relying on Allah. I really have nothing to do...

Wish you all the best...

সব জায়গায় একতার চিন্তা করা উচিত না (We shouldn't want unity everywhere)

(English version has given bellow)

একতাই বল. আমিও বিশ্বাস করি. স্কুলে থাকতে একবার ভাবলাম,  আমাদের ৫তলা বিল্ডিং এর সব বাচ্চা  একসাথে কেন খেলিনা? যেই ভাবা সেই কাজ. বিকালে সব ফ্লাটে গিয়ে বাচ্চাদের দেকে নিয়ে ছাদে গেলাম। কেউ কেউ খেললো, কেউ কেউ গল্প করেই সময় কাটালো। ধীরে ধীরে বড়রাও যোগ দিতে শুরু করলো। ভাড়াটিয়ারা এক জায়গায় হলে যা হয়. বাড়ি ওয়ালাকে সায়েস্তা করার নানা প্লান করার সুযোগ পেল. দেখা গেল সবাই একসাথে নানা যন্ত্রনা শুরু করে দিল. আব্বা আমার উপর ভীষন ক্ষেপে গেলেন. আমাকে বললেন, "সমস্যা তুই শুরু করেছিস, তুই বন্ধ করবি."

আমি বন্ধ করলাম. ছাদ বন্ধ করে দিলাম. আর বিকালে কাউকে আর ডাকলাম  না. ওরা চাইলে নিজেদের ফ্লাটে মিটিং চালাতে পারতো, কিন্তু ওরাও ছাদ বন্ধ হওয়ার দু:খে সব প্লানিং বন্ধ করে দিল.

আমি বুঝলাম। সব জায়গায়, বিশেষ করে ভাড়াটিয়াদের নিয়ে একতার চিন্তা করা উচিত না.

Unity is the strengths. I also believe so. That's why during my school days I thought we, all kid of our 5 storied building, should play together. As I thought I start work with it. In the afternoon I went to every flat and call the kids then all together we went to the roof to play. Some played and some spend their time by gossiping. Anyway we keep this time passing every day. Soon elders also joined us. You know, when elders get together they start sharing bad things of others. Here they were all renters, so they start planning to disturb the landlord. Soon, they all together start disturbing my parents. And my parents became very angry with me. My father told me, "You start this mess, you have to finish it".

I did. I closed the rood door and stopped asking others to join at the roof. Problem solved. Well, the renters could keep their work in their own flat, but they didn't. And I get the lesson; we shouldn't look unity everywhere, especially among renters :)

Jacket inside the room

Shafeen likes his winter collection, this jacket. But it's too warm to wear it inside the room. Generally I put a sweater inside the jacket, so that when he comes inside a room he can take off the jacket and stay with the sweater. But Shafeen don't like to leave the jacket. Result, he became sweated and can't stay with the jacket more :)

Trust may go for ever

We know, it’s difficult to gain trust, but one mistake can easily destroy all.

People or organization can gain trust by big words, easily. But when we found anything wrong then that trust just goes away. Then it’s very difficult to gain again. Easy come easy go.

The trust which gained by actions, people remember that. When bad times come, many people may forget that but some will always respect you and few may always trust you.

কে বলেছে এটা টিউমার? এটাতো বেবি! (Who said its tumor? its a baby!)

আজ শাফিনের জন্মের সময়ের ঘটনাটা মনে পরে গেল. দুমাস পিরিয়ড বন্ধ থাকার পর আমার ঘরে ইউরিন টেস্ট করে পজিটিভ পাই. এরপর আমি পুরোপুরি নিশ্চিত হওয়ার জন্য আল্ট্রা সাউন্ড টেস্ট করতে মগবাজারের মেডিনোভা তে যাই. ওখানকার বয়স্ক পরীক্ষক বললেন, এই রিপোর্ট তুমি তোমার ডাক্তারের কাছে দেখাও. ওরা বার বার স্ক্রিন থেকে নিশ্চিত. আমি বার বার বললাম, কি হয়েছে ওরা জানালো, এটা "মোলার প্রেগ্নান্সি". ওখান থেকেই আমার বোনকে (ডাক্তার) ফোন করে জানলাম, এর মানে আমার পেটে সন্তান না হয়ে টিউমার হয়েছে, সময়ের সাথে সাথে এটা আরো বাড়বে, একে অপারেশন করে ফেলতে হবে. আমাকে জানানো হলো পেট ওয়াশ করে ফেলুন.

আমি মানতে পারলাম না. যদিও বাসার সবাই এমন ভাবে আমার সাথে ব্যবহার করা শুরু করল যেন আমি টিউমার নিয়ে বাড়াবাড়ি করছি. ২ দিন পর আমি আরেক ডক্টর শান্তি নগরে গেলাম. ওখানকার ডাক্তার বলল, রিপোর্ট তো পেয়েছেন. এখন এবরশন করে ফেলুন. আমি বললাম, না. আমি আবার পরীক্ষা করব. আমি নিশ্চিত হবো আগে.

ডাক্তার (আসলে এসিস্টান্ট) বলল, দরকার নেই. আমি জোর করলাম, না, আমি আরো পরীক্ষা করব. ওদের সিনিয়র বাকিদের থামালেন. ঠিক আছে, উনি যখন চাইছেন, তাহলে আরেকবার আল্ট্রা সাউন্ড করুক.

আবার করা হলো. এখানে আমার পেট স্ক্রিনে দেখে বললেন, আরে কে বলেছে এটা টিউমার? এটাতো বেবি!! সব ঠিক আছে. আপনার কোন টিউমার নেই.

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যেখানে জীবনের প্রশ্ন জড়িত সেখানে শেষ পর্যন্ত চেষ্টা চালিয়ে যেতে হয়.....


Today I just remember about son's life, how it started. When for 2 months I miss period, I made a urine test at home with a test strip. And I found positive. Next day I went to Medinova diagnostic at Dhanmondi to make a ultra sound test to make sure about my pregnancy. There an aged tester tested me, she saw the screen many times and discussed with the assistance and told me, take this report and show it to your doctor. I asked, what happen. No answer. I called my sister (doctor) from there and informed they give me report "Molar pregnancy". What's that mean? She said, it means you couldn't have a baby; it's turned into a tumor. And with time, this tumor will grow. So, I have to wash it soon.

I couldn't believe it, but at home everyone treating me that I am showing of too much with the tumor.
After two days I went to Shanti Nagar to another doctor. Their assistants said to me, OK let’s do the abortion. I said NO, I want more tests. They were arguing with me, why? Report is very clear. But I said no, I have to be sure first. I want more tests.

Then on senior from them, stopped others and said OK if she want tests, take her to ultra sound test. I start testing and there that tester saw my belly and asked, "Who said its a tumor? It's a baby!! I can see it clearly and you don't have any tumor"

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I will always say when it's a matter of life. Try for it, unless you are sure 100%.

No hair, no punishment...

In the picture you can see a panda, my son's toy. Accidentally he (my son) broke it's head. But he didn't like to see its head without hair. So, he put a balloon (orange color) on its empty head as hair.

Every people like to have hair on their head, though for some people it's no possible. But because of his cruel mother, my son decided to shave his head. I told him, "Your class mates will irritated you, if you remove your hair". He said will accept all, but no more hair. Because whenever his mom gets angry while study, she holds his hairs give a shake... very painful. So, no hair, no punishment...

Potato payesh.

An easy sweet dish from Bangladesh is Potato payesh.

What you need:

1. Milk half liter (you better take compressed milk)
2. Potato finely cut 1 and half cup
3. Sugar 1 cup
4. Cardamom powder half tea spoon
5. Ghee 1 cup

How to make:

Fry the potatoes in ghee till it get brown.
Put the milk on your burner, add sugar and cardamom powder.
When the milk will start boiling put all the potatoes with ghee and keep it boiling 5 minutes. Your potato payes is ready...

একবারে একটা তরকারী (All in one curry)

আমরা বাংলাদেশীরা সাধারনত: ভাতের সাথে ৩ ধরনের তরকারী খাই. ডাল, শাকসব্জি আর মাছ/গোশত। বাইরে থেকে ফিরে বা অসুস্থ থাকলে এত কিছু আর রান্না করতে ইচ্ছা করেনা। তাই তখন একবারে একটা তরকারী করতে পারলে ভাল. যেমন,

খাসি, ডাল আর সবজির তরকারী।

যা যা লাগবে:
১. খাসির গোশত ১ কেজি (আপনি নিরামিষভোজী হলে এটা বাদ দিবেন আর মসলা সব অর্ধেক দিবেন)
২. পিয়াজ কুচি আধা কাপ
৩. আদা রসুন পেস্ট ২ চা চামচ
৪. হলুদ গুড়া ২ চা চামচ
৫. শুকনা মরিচ গুড়া আধা চা চামচ (আপনি ঝাল পছন্দ করলে ২ চা চামচ)
৬. ধনে গুড়া ২ চা চামচ
৭. জিরা গুড়া ২ চা চামচ
৮. ছোট আলু ৫ টি (খোসা ছাড়িয়ে দিবেন)
৯. শাক সবজি আপনার পছন্দ মতো (বড় টুকরা)
১০ ডাল এক কাপ
১১. তেল ১ কাপ
১২ লবন স্বাদ মতো
১৩. এলাচ, লবঙ্গ  আর দারুচিনি ৪টা করে
১৪. তেজপাতা ২টি 

কিভাবে রান্না করবেন:

চুলায় মৃদু আচে প্রেসার কুকার বসান। খাসির গোশতের চর্বি কেটে ফেলে প্রেসার কুকারে দিয়ে দিন. তেল দিন. এবার একে একে বাকি সব উপকরণ গোশতের সাথে দিয়ে ভাল করে মিশিয়ে দিন. এবার আপনি ঝোল যতটুকু রাখবেন ততটুকু পানি দিবেন। যদি গোশত আর সবজি থেকে পানি বের হয়ে যথেস্ট ঝোল হয়ে যায় তো পানি দেয়ার দরকার নেই. এবার প্রেসার কুকার ঢেকে পুরো আচে দিয়ে দিন. একবার সিটি বাজার পর আচ কমিয়ে ২৫ মিনিট রাখুন। বাস হয়ে গেল আপনার সুস্বাদু তরকারী।

We, the Bangladeshi people usually take 3 curries with rice in every meal. They are daal (lentil) , vegetables and fish/meat. When you came from outside or you became sick, it’s really difficult for you to cook all these dishes. So, here I am giving you a simple way to cook all these at a time and it’s tasty too. This can be called

Meat, lentil and vegetables

What we need:
1. Mutton 1 kg (If you are a vegetarian then you can remove this part and you have to give all masala half from given amount)

2. Onion finely cut half cup

3.  Ginger and garlic paste 2 tea spoons

4. Turmeric powder 2 tea spoons

5. Coriander powder 2 tea spoons

6. Cumin powder 2 tea spoons

7. Red chili powder half tea spoon (if you like spicy then can add 2 tea spoon)

8. Small size potato 5 (you have pill of its skin)

9. Vegetables (whatever you like, make them big pieces)

10. Cooking oil 1 cup

11. Salt (according to taste)

12. Cinnamon, cardamom and cloves 4 of each

13. Bay leaf 2

14. Lentil 1 cup

How to cook

Put your pressure cooker on the gas burner in low heat and give every item one after another and mix it well. Then put the lid and make the hit high. When you hear the first whistle then again make the hit low. Keep it like that for 25 minutes. Then it’s done. You have your delicious curry. You can take it with rice or bread.

Looking at other's plate

Whenever I go to a restaurant for food, I try to take something with regular (which is tasted previously). I like to taste different food. They might have more tasty food, which I don't want to miss by taking regular one. I keep something regular as a backup food, because, if we can't eat the new one, we will have something to eat (at least).

I tasted food from Salt Grill (at Bashundhora City Complex) before, and except "Chicken Salad" and Fruit Juice, I didn't like anything from them. This time my son was very encouraged by their play ground. So, he pulled me over there. And look over others what are they taking (I needed to decide what can be good to eat) and then ordered "Chicken Masala Dosa". For the first time I took decision on food by looking at other's plate. And yes, it was a good trick. I mean it worked! This item of food was great! 

All can’t stay together

No matter how much we expect or needed for getting together and then staying together, is very difficult. People will always have different points of view, different choices, different mood, and different expectations. So, after all hard work, you may bring them together, but they can’t stay together unless they really want to be. When people want to stay together they forgive each other’s mistakes, forget each other’s negative works, and accept all negative things in them. Only love has power to tolerate all these without any pain. It could be love between brothers, sisters, spouses, friends, love birds etc. Except love when people have to accept everything only because of social propaganda or career or money or to achieve something, things became really tough. Sometimes man has no choice but accept all negative things to archive their goal or promise.

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I will let you know when I starts getting money from any of them.

নতুন সেই দেশ কে নিয়ে কেন লিখেন না? (you can write about that country too.)

যারা দেশের বাইরে থাকেন। তারা অনেকেই অনলাইনে নানা বিষয় নিয়ে লেখা লিখি করেন। আমার অনুরোধ, আপনারা নতুন সেই দেশ কে নিয়ে কেন লিখেন না? ওখানকার নানা বিষয়, নিয়ম, সংস্কৃতি, খাবার , এছড়াও আরো নতুন নতুন বিষয় নিয়ে লিখতে পারেন. আপনারা নতুন দেশের অনেক কিছুই লক্ষ্য করেন একজন পর্যটকের দৃষ্টি নিয়ে। তাই, আপনারা  অনেক সুন্দর নতুন বিষয় দেখেন, যা ওই দেশের অধিবাসীদের দৃষ্টি এড়িয়ে যায়. আর আমাদের নতুন দেশের নানা বিষয় সম্পর্কে জানার সুযোগ হয়.

আপনি চাইলে লেখাটা বর্ননা মূলক শুধু নয়, কাব্যিক ও হতে পারে :)

People who are living abroad, do online writing too. I think you can write about that country too. You are watching that country like a traveler. So, there are many things which you can see but the inhabitants may not notice as its a regular things for them. Write about them, their culture, their invention, food and many other new thing. So, that we can also get to know about them.

If you wish you can write by your poetry too :)

Big characters in the cartoon

When we were kid, we use to saw cartoons either with cat, mouse or dog, nor super heroes. But now a day kids watch cartoons with many well know characters. Like Sherlock Holmes, Mr. Bin, Charlie Chaplin etc. This is really good. Because of these cartoons, kids get to know about big characters and later they may read or watch the real one.

It can also have some bad reaction. If the cartoon draw a picture which doesn't has similarities or give bad impression about that character then kids won't like them even before they get to know the real one.

I trust you

I trust you. Because my heart is saying you will never dishearten me in anyway.
I set you free. I believe, love is there,so nothing can take you away. If its not there, then I shouldn't hold you.
So, look at the sky, see you can fly away anytime, nothing is holding you.

Following other

When a baby born, it started following others. This attitude helps them to learn quickly. Though this is not a good attitude for elders. If they start following other without thinking whether it is good or bad then soon they will become brainless. 

Another attitude both kid and elder has. They like the thing, which is already chosen by other. To the kid, no matter how good or interesting thing you give, they will always like to have what other kid hold. Same goes for elders, if one women color their hair like blond all will like to follow her, without considering whether that color will suit her or not. If one man bought new jacket then others will start looking for it. They won't think, whether that is needed by them or not.

These situation goes for car for both kids and elders. If one had new car then others.... you can see how jealous other became :)

May Allah save Sundarbon

I don't know why (may be because we don't get benefited by others) we became very selfish. We don't get any action we see any disaster is coming or started, unless it falls on us. Most of the time that means it already made many destruction and sometimes it can't be cure anymore.

It happens mostly in natural disaster. No matter now naturalists explains us, we don't care or won't take any action unless the disaster hit us. May Allah save Sundarbon.

দূর থেকে অনেক কিছুই সুন্দর (Everything looks beautiful from a distance)

দূর থেকে অনেক কিছুই সুন্দর লাগে. কাছে গেলে তখন সামনে আসে একের পর এক সমস্যাগুলো. এর যেন কোন শেষ নেই. এই মানুষিক চাপ আমার আর ভাল লাগেনা. আমি আর কিছু ভাবতে চাইনা. আল্লাহ আমার সামনে যা যেভাবে রাখবেন, আমি সেটাই নিয়ে থাকব. বাকিরা যার যা ভাল মনে হয় করতে থাকুন... সবশেষে সবাই দেখব ফলাফল কি হয়.

আমি এমনি. সবসময়ই স্রোতের বিপরীতে দাড়াই. সবার ব্যঙ্গাত্মক দৃষ্টি আর কথার সামনে পরি. আমার চিন্তাভাবনা আর কাজ কর্মওই হয়তো এমন. কারো সাথে সহজে মিলে না. নিজের মতো থাকি, সবার কাছে ছোট হয়ে. তাও কারো কাছে কোন ব্যাখ্যা নিয়ে যেতে ইচ্ছা করে না. কারো জানার ইচ্ছা হলে নিজেই জানতে চাইবে, আর নিজের মতো যা খুশি তাই বলতে চাইলে বলতে থাকুক... আমি তো মহামানবী নই যে সমালোচনার উর্ধে থাকব.

Everything looks beautiful from a distance. But whenever you go near you will find negative things one after another. It's like never ending situations. I don't want this kind of mental pressure anymore.I don't wan't to think more. Whatever Allah will bring in front of me, I will accept. Rest of the world may work for whatever they like (I can't take this pressure). At the end we all will see what's the final situation.

I am always like this. I always stand against the flow and live with people's negative thoughts and opinion. But I don't go to them with explanations. If any one want to know will ask me and I will explain. If they don't then let them think whatever they think. I am not that special that, no body can make comments on me.

Safe place for us

Photo credit: Tameem

We always want a safe place for us and our beloved persons. Actually as a well wisher, we want this for all living things. So, we catch birds and keep it in the cage. Then give them food, water and talk or sing with them. Then we felt good that we gave them a good place to live. Is it so? I guess birds don't think so. They want to fly in the sky and live on a tree without any problem. That's the best place for them. Same we do with animals. We think we are saving them and giving them a happy life. Where we are actually destroying their life.

Is that it? NO, we do this for human too. Actually we don't know which place is the best for one. If I think about our country (Bangladesh), I had face bad food, too much crowd, traffic jam, people don't care about the benefit of the society, education problem, health problem etc.

Now if I choose live in a better country then what might happen. My son may face drug problem, violence at school, he might had to live in too cold area, we may had no friends to give us time, loneliness may hit us, we may face trouble to perform our native culture etc.

Then where to go? But still we had see all plus and minus points and decide which might be the best solution for us. We may take wrong decision but we have to live with that.

We need to make people aware to use tissue for their cough

In Bangladesh now more than one company are producing Tissues. Any where you go, you will tissue boxes (facial) are available. People use tissues for various purposes. Like to wipe sweat, clean hands or face etc. But they don't use for their cold (not much people).

Whenever our country's weather became little colder, on the street and everywhere you will see people spited their cough. They don't care about germs or cleanness. The only thing is to throw it (spit it) any where they can (on stairs, lift, baranda, roof, tree etc). So, many people get affected. From them again they are become sick... the process continues...

We need to teach our kids to use tissue for cough and then keep it with them till they found any bin to drop it. And also we need to make people aware in our Medias. We have to improve our situations.

ভালবাসা (Love)

ভালবাসা কে না চায়. এ এমন একটি বিষয় যা আপনাকে সারা দুনিয়ার সব কষ্টকে ভুলিয়ে দিবে. সব রকম শারীরিক আর মানুসিক রোগ সারিয়ে দিতে পারে. মনে হবে যেন নেশা করেছেন... অদ্ভুত এক অনুভিতে আপনাকে আচ্ছন্ন করে রাখবে.

অথচ এই ভালবাসা আপনি নিজে নিজের মধ্যে তৈরী করতে অনুভব করতে পারবেন না. আপনার হৃদয়কে আরেকজনের কাছে দিতে হবে, যে তাকে ভালবাসবে, যত্ন করবে. অথচ সে চাইলেই সব রকম কষ্ট দিতে পারবে আপনার হৃদয়কে.

এ কেমন নিয়ম? খুবই ভাগ্যবান তারা যারা একে পেয়েছেন... এক মুহুর্তের জন্য হলেও এর অনুভুতির তুলনা হয় না.

Who doesn't want love? Love has very rich power to resolve any kind of pain whether it is physical or mental. You will feel it like drunk (kind of) situation... very strange feeling will cover you.

But you can't have it by yourself. You have to give your heart to someone who will be responsible to love your heart and take care of it, where they have full power to destroy it.

What a situation! Only fortunate people can feel the true love... even a single moment feeling of love is priceless....

I wish I could get everything that I wish for

When I was a kid (even now), whatever beautiful things I saw, wish to have them… But I knew, our parent won’t afford all or any. So, mostly I didn’t ask anyone to give me those. Even now I don’t ask anyone to give me anything (if by mistake I did, nobody gives any). All can’t be wrong with me, maybe I have some personality problem that when I ask for anything, nobody feels to give that (no matter how cheap or easy things to give).

My son doesn’t think much about these. Whatever he likes he asks me to give him that. As I already faced this cruel world, I don’t say NO to him.  I always say “Yes/OK”, but can’t give on that spot. Later whenever I can I try to give him that. And when he gets it he understands that his mom is very sincere about this matter.

Let me give an example. Once in the shopping mall he saw a Christmas tree and asks me to give those colorful balls which are used for decoration with the tree. Later from Mina Bazaar (as far as I remember) I bought a set of those balls for him… he played with them as they were not that much strong, most of them are broken now. But I kept my promise.

People look for regular/risk free income

No matter how much we think money is nothing... especially it's nothing for happiness. Actually it's only nothing for happiness, when you have no demand. Otherwise for everything you need money. Even you have to pay for internet while you are reading this blog.

That's why people look for regular monthly/weekly income to stay calm and think for other goals. May be that's why people looks for risk free job/payment to live their life, though business men earn much more than an ordinary service holder.

এখনকার বাচ্চাদের মাঝে নতুন ক্রেজ এসেছে "পকেমন কার্ড" (Now a day, kids has new craze on "Pokémon Card")

একটা সময় ছিল. এদেশের শিশুরা "ডরেমন" কার্টুন এর বিশেষ ভক্ত ছিল. কার্টুনের মূল চরিত্র ডরেমন হলেও, বাচ্চারা অনুসরন করতো "নবিতা" চরিত্রটিকে. যে ছিল ফাঁকিবাজ, পড়াশুনায় খারাপ ইত্যাদি....

এখনকার বাচ্চাদের মাঝে নতুন ক্রেজ এসেছে "পকেমন কার্ড". "পকেমন" কার্টুনকে নিয়ে তৈরী কার্ড. আমার ছেলে আমাকে বুঝিয়েছে, কিভাবে খেলতে হয়. ও বলল, "এখানে আমরা নিজেরা মারামারি করিনা (আল্লাহর কাছে হাজার শোকর), আমাদের হয়ে পকেমন করে. যেমন, আমি একটা কার্ড ফেললাম এমন পকেমনের যার আগুন মারা ক্ষমতা আছে. অন্য তখন তার কার্ড থেকে এমন পকেমন কার্ড ফেলবে, যে পানি মেরে আগুন নিভিয়ে দিবে. এদের আলাদা আলাদা নাম আছে, শক্তি আছে." ফলাফল হলো, আমার ছেলে সব পকেমনের নাম, শক্তি মুখস্ত করে ফেলল আর ভুলে গেল বার মাসে নাম. পরীক্ষা খারাপ দিল.

আমি দেখলাম সব দোকানে পোকেমন কার্ড আনা শুরু হয়েছে. সব স্কুলের বাচ্চারা এটা নিয়ে খেলছে আর নিজেদের মধ্যে কার্ড পাল্টা পালটি করছে.

রাগ করে আমি পোকেমন কার্ড সরিয়ে ফেললাম. এখন কিছুটা নিম রাজি হয়ে বলেছি. যদি ও দুপুরে নিজে নিজে বাড়ির কাজ করে তো বিকালে কার্ড দিয়ে খেলতে পারবে.

There was a time when most of our kids were crazy about the "Doremon" cartoon. Though main character was "Doremon", kids use to follow another character "Nobita" who was very poor in study and had many bad habits.

Now a day, kids has new craze on "Pokémon Card". These cards are made by following "Pokémon" cartoon. My son explained to me how it works, He said, "Here we don't fight directly (Thanks Allah). Pokémon’s will fights for us. Like, one may give a card/Pokémon which has fire power, and then another has to give another card/Pokémon which has water power to win. All of these Pokémon’s has different name and strengths." So, my son memorized all of the pokemon’s name and their power and forgets the twelve months name. His result became poor in exam.

I have seen in all shops now a day Pokémon cards are available. Every school kids are carrying Pokémon cards and exchanging with each other.

I got really angry with my son for his poor result in exam. So, few days I didn't let him touch those cards. Now I made a new rule. If he does his homework at day time then at afternoon can will have permission to play with Pokémon cards.

Blur picture problem with cell phone camera

The main problem in talking picture, with cell phone camera, is it destroys, when the object of the picture moves. All has to be statue before taking a picture. So, you can’t take any picture when objects are moving, especially, when you are trying to take picture of my son. He doesn’t know how to stand still. So, most of his picture became blur.

Similarities with them take your attention

We have seen many times in movie, when a person wants someone (to be with them or like them) they will see them always around them… I mean they will see others are looking same as their expected person. I thought these are just stories, can’t be true.

But actually this is somewhat true. When you want someone, every similarity like them will take your attention. Like if that person use to wear blue shoes, your eyes will take attention if someone else also wears same kind of shoes. And those will remind about them. Your mind won’t let you forget them. To make you feel better it will show everything that has some connection with them.

What a situation, our brain playing game with us (to make us feel good).

পিয়াজ পাকোরা (onion fries)

রান্না করতে গিয়ে দেখলেন, ঘরের সবজি হঠাত শেষ হয়ে গিয়েছে. কি করা যায়? ঘরে কি পিয়াজ আছে? তাহলেই হবে. আজ রান্না হোক পিয়াজ ভাজা. ভাবছেন শুধু পিয়াজ খেয়ে থাকবো? শুনুন, পিয়াজের আছে অনেক গুন যা আমাদের শরীরের জন্য অনেক ভাল. এবার বলছি কি কি করতে হবে.

যা লাগবে:

১. পিয়াজ কুচি (৩ কাপ)
২. ময়দা বা আটা (৪ টেবিল চামচ)
৩. কাঁচা মরিচ কুচি (১টা, বিচি ফেলে diben)
৪. ধনিয়া গুড়া (১ চা চামচ)
৫. লবন (আপনার পছন্দ মতো)
৬. পানি (আন্দাজ)
৭. রান্নার তেল (ভাজার জন্য)

যেভাবে বানাবেন:

একটি পাত্রে তেল আর পানি বাদে সব উপকরণ একত্র করে মাখিয়ে নিন. এবার অল্প অল্প পানি দিয়ে মাখান যেন ময়দাগুলো পিয়াজের গায়ে সুন্দর ভাবে লেগে যায়. এখন কড়াইয়ে তেল গরম করুন. বড় চামচে করে এক চামচ এক চামচ করে পিয়াজ ভেজে নিন. সুন্দর বাদামী রঙের হলে নামাবেন তবে বেশি ভাজার দরকার নেই. একে পিয়াজের পাকোরাও বা বরা বলতে পারেন.

এবার সস দিয়ে বা ভাতের সাথে খেয়ে দেখুন ...

You went to the kitchen for cooking and found your vegetables are already finished. Now what to do? No worry, do you have onion? If yes, then this will be enough for now. Today we will cook onion fry. You are thinking, only onion fries? Listen, onion has many good nutritious elements which are very helpful for our body. Now let’s start cooking.

What we need:

1. Onion Jillian cut (3 cup)

2. Flour (4 table spoons)

3. Green chili Jillian cut (1, remove all seeds)

4. Ground coriander (1 tea spoon)

5. Salt (as much as you like)

6. Water (for mixing)

7. Cooking oil (for frying)

How to make:

Take a pot and mix all the ingredients except water and oil. Then give small amount of water into the pot and mix it. If needed give more water, all flours should be mixed with the onions. Now put your fry pan on the gas burner and lets the oil became hot. Then use a big spoon to take one spoon of onion and fry it. When one side gets brown make other side fry.

Now taste it with sauce or take it with rice.

Natural beautification for your home

No matter how your house is, if you just add some green (trees) it will look gorgeous. For that, you don’t have to plan much. Green will itself decorate your home. But if you can make a good plan, the total environment may change dramatically, with some side effect ;) like insects, dirt etc. Well this is earth; you always have to adjust to have something better.

In the picture you can see, only green made the total frame so beautiful

Tuna fry, Bangladeshi style

It’s very easy…. And you can add or change any ingredients as you like. Here are the ingredients:

•       Tuna (1 small can)
•        ¼ teaspoon onion paste
•       ¼ teaspoon garlic paste
•       ¼ teaspoon onion slice
•       1 bay leaf
•       1 green chili
•       1 table spoon crashed coriander leaf
•       ¼ teaspoon ground coriander
•       ¼ teaspoon ground cumin seeds
•    ¼ teaspoon ground turmeric
•    ½ cup cooking oil
•    1 egg
•    1 tea spoon tomato sauce

Now put all together in a fry pan and fry it until it looks ok for you.

মনের মধ্যে কত প্রশ্ন (many questions in mind)

আমার অবস্থা এখন বাচ্চাদের মতো. মনের মধ্যে কত প্রশ্ন, কিন্তু যাদের জিগ্যেস করতে ইচ্ছা করছে, ওরা আমার কথা শুনতে চায়না. বোকা মানুষদের দু;খের কোন শেষ নেই.

My situation is like a kid now, I have lots of questions in my mind. But to whom I want to ask, don't want to listen. You know what, stupid people like me has no solution in life.

Days always pass away but memories remain

In my childhood there was an AD about photo studio “চলে যাবে দিন, রয়ে যাবে স্মৃতি অমলিন” (Days always pass away but memories remain). Like these words. First I thought we only remember the bad memory. It’s very easy to forget about the good one. Yes that’s true in regular life. But in love you will only remember the good one. If you are in love, you will always forget how that person hurts you many times.

This is earth, and you have to struggle to live here always.

Life isn't easy or perfect. No matter how perfectly you work, some or big problems will come in front of you which you can never imagine and you have to face it. Sometimes people feel happy when you solve all of their problems or small issues. It doesn't mean people want problems to be happy.

In this way reality will always remind you that you are not in heaven... this is earth, and you have to struggle to live here always.

মাইগ্রেন খুব খারাপ (Migraine is very bad)

মাইগ্রেন খুব খারাপ. এতো তোয়াজে রাখি সব সময় তারপরও কিভাবে যেন এসে যায়. আর একবার এসে মাথায় চরে বসলে আর যাওয়ার নাম করে না. কত অসুধ, ঘুম আরাম করি, তারপর যদি দয়া হয়. মাথা ব্যাথা যাওয়ার কোন সহজ পদ্ধতি পেলে ভাল হতো...

Migraine is very bad. No matter how I take care of it but somehow it manages to come and sit on my head. Then it's very difficult to send it away. I tried in many ways, by medicine, rest, sleep but very difficult to get rid of it. I wish there would be some easy technique to get relief from this pain.

Patient for photography

When visit to a beautiful place we always like to take a picture of it. So, that it will become a good memory to share with friends and family. We like it. Do we like that too when others are taking pictures, doesn't seem so. In many places I have faced problem while taking a snap.

When you see a person taking a picture of something do you really need to cross him/her in front of their camera? When you can wait for few seconds or may pass that place behind the photographer? Well all people don’t like to do so. They believe, I am the kind of that place. I can move wherever I like to and whenever I feel good. Who cares about others photography?

In the picture I was taking picture of my son at Baily road. Plenty of space left behind me and I didn't take much time. But still this person couldn't hold himself to meet his other boyfriends, while others were standing for some moment for mother child photography. Good for me that my son showed enough patients that I could take another snap for him.

MONEY CAN'T BRING HAPPINESS FOR YOUR DAUGHTER

My maid is much tensed. She recently gave her elder daughter marry. First she was in economic problem, because, she had to give money, to her son-in-law, for business. Then in Eid she had to give dresses and shoe to the new son in law including her daughters.

Now she is in other problem. She has to give full furniture to her daughter as she is going to start her new life. And she can't buy old furniture to save money... all has to be new. She is saying she doesn't know what to do...

Here I must say... this became very common scenario in Bangladesh (may be in some other country too). People who has money gives all possible things to their daughters after marry. This makes greedy to the groom family more and makes jealous of other people in neighbor. All likes to bring bride from these kind of (money making) family, don't care who is going to be their bride (in some cases they look for beautiful and educated girls too including wealthy family).

Because of this situation middle class family faces problems. No matter what they give, grooms family never satisfied. Always expected more (some says directly, some indirectly).

For this tradition poor family suffers more. Their family can never fulfill grooms family demand and the daughters had to pay for it by all kind of (physical, mental, social etc) torture. Many families killed their bride to get more money.

My suggestions to the wealthy family... please drop this tradition. Let the groom hold your daughter by his own responsibility. The universal truth is "MONEY CAN'T BRING HAPPINESS FOR YOUR DAUGHTER". No matter how much you give... if the groom family has mental problem (mostly has) they will give pain to your daughter. Some might directly say, "We didn't bring you to see your face, you have to work for this family", some may use different indirect word.

If a good family want a bride and ready to keep her happy, they won't demand or expect anything but your daughter. If your daughters go there in one set of cloth they will be happy to have her....

Please stop this bad habit (giving furniture) for your daughter.

Unless we can stop this tradition, we can’t expect people will like to have girl child and raise them… obviously they will to kill them in mother’s womb.

মন এবং মগজ (heart and brain)

মন এবং মগজ সব সময় দুই কথা বলে. মনের কথা শুনলে পরে আপসোস করতে হয়. তারচেয়ে মগজের কথা শোনা ভাল. মগজ ভুল কম করে. কিন্তু মনের শক্তি অনেক. তার মতের বিরুদ্ধে গেলে শারীরিক ভাবে অসুস্থ বানিয়ে দেয়. মনকে ভুলানো শুরু করেছি. মনকে বলেছি, আশা নিয়ে থাকো, একদিন না একদিন আশা পুরন হবে. মগজকে বলেছি, মন তার আশা নিয়ে বসে আছে, তোমাকে জালাতন করবেনা, তুমি তোমার মতো কাজ করো....


মৃতুর আগ পর্যন্ত আশা নিয়ে বসে থাকলে আর মন ভাঙ্গার সম্ভাবনা নেই. আর মগজ যদি ঠিক মতো কাজ করতে পারে তো জীবন আর আটকে থাকবে না....দেখা যাক এবার কি ফলাফল হয়.

Heart and brain always says contradictory words. If listen to the heart, later had to regret, better listen to the brain. It makes fewer mistakes. But heart is very powerful element of human body, it makes us sick physically. So I had to find a middle way. I have told to my mind that keeps hope. Someday your hope may fulfill, just keep waiting. And then asked brain, you can work as you wanted... mind/heart won't disturb you.

If my mind keeps its hope till death then it will never be broken and if my mind can work properly then my life will move on... I won't stick in one place.... Let’s see what comes next

Picture with water

I like water... in every possible way... I like sit by keeping my feet underwater only, I can sit or stay under water by keeping my head over water only, in shower I enjoyed most in a day, I like rain, I like boat.... and I don't know how to swim.

Same goes for my son too... He likes water...His favorite food is liquid food (milk, soft drinks etc) whenever we saw water I try to take a picture with that :)

Parents also need good guiding

Before becoming a mother I never understood that parents are like God to the kids. They are actually creating the kids life, from childhood to adult. In the Indian sub-continent, parents influence their kid's life till death.

So, every single decision for a kid is very important. One step can totally change your kid’s life. Let me give some examples. A mother may take her son to a singing school in his childhood, and later that may become the life changing event. That boy may become a good singer.

You may plan to make your kid scholar, so you may keep pushing your kid for study and never let go for other activity... later that boy may become arrogant that he doesn't like to study at all and may never be good at any other work.

You may think too much love may destroy your kid's future... but later lack of love may made him to choose alone life.

So, there is no option to make mistake... Well no body do this kind of mistake intentionally. But parents need good guiding (from media, government etc) a lot, to make the right decision for their kid.

We can't forget that the kids are the future of our nation...

কথায় সংযত থাকাই শ্রেয় (It's good to hold your tongue)

কথা বার্তায় আমি সব সময়ই বেশ সংযত. বেশি কথা দুরে থাক, দরকারী কথাই ঠিক মতো বলতে পারিনা. তারপরও কারো কারো সাথে মন খুলে লাগামহীন কথা বলার চেস্টা করেছিলাম. বন্ধু ভেবে, বা তার চেয়ে বেশি কিছু. ফলাফল ভাল হয়নি. কেউ সেটা ভালভাবে নেয়নি.

আমি তাদের আরো অনেক কিছু বলার জন্য তৈরী হয়ে গিয়েছিলাম (জীবনের কিছু গুরুত্বপূর্ণ সিদ্ধান্ত নিতে চলেছিলাম), হয়তো সেসব বলার বা শোনার মতো প্রস্তুত তারা হয়নি... আমিই হয়তো ভুল বুঝছিলাম.

একদিক থেকে হয়তো ঠিকই হয়েছে. হয়তো আমি নিজের এমন কথা বলে ফেলতাম, পরে তারজন্য আমাকে আপসোস করতে হতো. যদিও সত্য আমি সহজেই শিকার করে নেই, সেটা আমার নিজের সম্পর্কে যত খারাপই হোক না কেন. আবার সত্য না হলেও কখনো কখনো মেনে নিয়েছি, গোলমাল চাইনা বলে.

একটা সময় ছিল, যখন আমি নিজের জন্য কিছু চাইতাম না. আমার খুশি, ভাললাগার কোন মূল্য আমি নিজেই দিতাম না. আমি এখনও তাই, তবে নিজের দিকটা এখন খানিকটা খেয়াল করি. কারন আমার কিছু হলে আরেকটা জীবনের আরো বেশি ক্ষতি হবে.

এইজন্য আগে আমি জীবনে যে কোন চ্যালেঞ্জ নিয়ে নিতাম. সবার মতের বিরুদ্ধে হলেও. যা ঠিক মনে হত তাই করতাম. পরিবার, সমাজ বা অন্য কারো ইচ্ছার চেয়ে যা ঠিক, সেটাই গুরুত্বপূর্ন বলে মনে করতাম. আজ ঝড় মোকাবেলা করতে করতে আমি ক্লান্ত. এখন ঘরপোড়া গরু আমি. উত্তপ্ত হাড়ি থেকে জ্বলন্ত আগুনে ঝাপ দিতে চাইনা. মানুষকে বিশ্বাস করে যথেস্ট ঠকেছি, যথেস্ট হয়েছে...

তারচেয়ে বরং সবকিছু আল্লাহর উপর ছেড়ে দিয়ে শান্তিতে দিন কাটাই. আল্লাহ আমার জন্য যা রেখেছেন, তাই হবে. আর কিছু ভাবতে চাইনা.

I am always a very reserve person. I don’t talk much; even I don’t say necessary talks. But sometimes I was too open and say everything without thinking about anything to some people, as I treated them as my friend or more than that. But result didn't come well.

I was ready to say many important things of my life to them (was ready to take some important decision with them). May be they were not ready or prepare to listen to them. May be I was wrong about them.

In one sense, this is the right thing happen. I might have told them about some topic, for which, later I might regret. Though I accept the truth always, no matter how hard they are on me. Sometimes I had accepted those things which were not truth, only because I don’t want any trouble with them.

Generally I never wanted anything for me. I never take care of my happiness. But now a day I try to take care of my health a bit, because, if anything happen to me, some other life will be in trouble.

That’s why previously I use to take any challenge in life. I never thought what other will think, what my family will react, I only considered what is right and go for it. But now am tired. I don’t want any more trouble from anywhere. I trusted people a lot and get lots of lessons… enough is enough.

So, I better give everything to Allah, and whatever Allah decides for me, I will accept. I don’t want to think anymore…

Please don't give anything extra ordinary things to your kid in school

Kids always like to copy others. If one kid touch any toy from a bowl, all will like to have it. No mater what other toys left. All will believe that their life is depending on that particular toy. In school if one kid start wearing sunglasses, then rest of the student will start follow that kid. And then all other parent have to buy sunglasses for their kid too.

That's why please don't give/bring anything extra ordinary to your kid in school. Because then others might like to have that. It's not a good situation for parents. If I don't give that new thing to my son, he will stay upset, will try to have it from that kid by forcing, if fail may keep looking at it. It's not a pleasant situation.

Things can be explained without hurting anyone

We all like to live together. And we might have many similar thoughts with some differences. Every people think s/he is right. Now, in which judgment you will say you are right? There will always be some different opinion. You just can’t put your judgment on other. Yes, you can bring in front the topic and show your logic. But people do it in their own way, mostly with anger and slang.

My word is you can’t hurt anybody even with your language. Things can be presented in good way… no matter what it is… just make sense what you want to say in good manner. Learn how to talk, without hurting anyone. You know, when anyone hurts you, you also feel the pain…

কিছু সান্ত্বনার কথা (Some words to give peace in mind)

জীবনে কঠিন সময়, খারাপ সময়, কষ্টের সময়, স্তব্ধ হবার সময়, ক্লান্তির সময়, ব্যথার সময় কতই তো আসে. থেমে গেলে কষ্ট আরো বেশি. তারচেয়ে বরং মনকে কোন রকম বুঝিয়ে চলতে থাকি. যত ধীর গতিতেই চলিনা কেন, চলতে তো হবে.....

এসময় আমি মনকে নানা কথা বলি.....

- মুভ অন

- আল্লাহ ভরসা

- মুমিন কখনোও নিরাশ হয়না

- every one is free, so let them go

- honesty is the best policy

- কান্নাকাটি যা করার আমি করে ফেলেছি, এই কোটা শেষ আর কাঁদব না.

- Let's hope for the best and prepare for the worse

- যে আপনার আপনার, সে আপনি এসে ধরা দিবে.

- আল্লাহ আমাকে যা দিবেন, যতটুকু দিবেন, তাই নিয়ে আমি সন্তুস্ট থাকব.

এই কথাগুলো মনে বেশ সাহস যোগায়. আমি আমার সাধ্য মতো কাজ করে যাই, বাকি আল্লাহর ইচ্ছা.

You know, in your life there are lots of moment of sorrow, disaster, mental disorder, heartbroken moment, sad, sorrow, tired, pain. But I have to go on, no matter how slow it is I must try. In these moments I say many things to my mind. Like....

- Move on

- Allah is there

- Mumin never gives up

- Everyone is free, so let them go

- Honesty is the best policy

- I have cried enough, that part is over, I won't cry anymore.

- Let's hope for the best and prepare for the worse

- Who is yours, he will be with you by himself

- Whatever Allah gives me, I will be satisfied always.

These words really help me to stand up and go on. I will try my best to stand alone. Rest whatever Allah decide for me, I will accept.

Helicopter service

In Bangladesh, now helicopter services are available. It’s little expensive, but I think many people can afford it. So, people who afford it should use it. It’s really very tough and in humanity (especially for woman) to stack in the high way for hours or days, where toilet facilities are not available and also very difficult to arrange food. And it’s not cool to sit in this hot and humid weather on road without moving a bit. We need very good and proper traffic management during Eid. Nothing is impossible if we use our brain.

Unemployment and workers problem

Now a day many important things can be solved online. People can post job and take interview through net. But the only problem is visa. I think if any company decided that they had got the right person from other country then should be able to bring that person in their country with family. Here visa process should be easy. Then it will be very good for the companies and also for the job seekers. Unemployment and workers (short of worker) problem will become very less. Companies will be able to bring employee from those countries where they have more skilled people than the work.